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I told you early on we were a lot alike, Zew. :o)_

Well, well, well, what a perfectly MASCULINE thread.

Lovin' it!

Rys

Sounds like you did well. Sorry your w can't seem to "let go" of the issue.

IF the command asks you, I don't see how you can object (you can say "I no longer care" b/c if you don't say that to them, how can you tell HER what you said about wishing her well and detaching?)

HOWEVER/CAVEAT

No, I would not pick up a pen or a phone (b/c you know, they're so heavy...) to assist them. Good grief.

It's one thing to gracefully step aside (to let her see that the grass is greener --- on the side that gets the water!),

but quite another to guide her into his arms. ("W, I said I'm letting you go. But calling the command FOR you is really asking a bit much. Good luck" and if you can, attach a happy face....)?

So, back to YOU...

and what's all this talk of bourbon with no discussion of Elijah Craig, or for the more reasonably priced Wild Turkey (Kentucky Spirit)?

Just my .02

(or in the case of Elijah Craig's, that's about all of my "Special Occasion Booze" money)

So an update, the command contacted me and I agreed to just drop everything thing. They then sent her and cc me in the email stating they had talked to me and I am dropping the NC and since I am they are dropping the NC. So there it is. I have stepped aside. And she has what she has wanted. But at least I was not the one to start the talk of droping the NC. Even after her getting what she wanted she is still pissy at me lol. I came home and she was here. She completely avoided me, and told her/my friend she is still not happy. He was like WTF you just got everything you wanted. lol thank the Lord I am done. I have requested All friends and family to not talk or ask about her.

I really enjoyed myself lastnight, I tried 7 different bourbons. My favorite was red breast. Delish. Thanks everyone for you support.

Those appeased are never happy with their pound of flesh. They smell weakness, and demand another pound. Did Hitler stop at the Rhineland?

I can't believe you gave in to her. Expect her to act even MORE entitled now, MORE demanding.

I did this for me in truth. It was wearing on my and my mental makeup. I have let go and going to live for me. I will have nOthing else to do or say about this entire sitch with her. It's hard sticking to something that is dragging me down as well.

I get this^^.

And sure, Starsky might be right in terms of her making more demands though I can't imagine what's left for HER to demand. Plus I'm not sure how you could claim to have dropped the matter & moved forward, while also holding onto it.

I think you CAN control a lot more from this moment forward, b/c now,
You dropped the rope. There is nothing for HER to resist from you. You stepped aside.

You are moving forward...

(Though for the life of me, I'm confused as to why she thinks OM will be an improvement, if he's in the military as well, since he'll eventually be sent somewhere...The relevant part is about the marriage you had and is for YOU to determine.

HER not being happy with OM's military career, is Not YOUR problem.

As for telling your friends not to speak to her, did I read that right? IF so, I"m Not sure that will work OR appear to show how detached you are.

Don't you look forward to not caring if someone brings up the topic of her?

Just so you know, the more challenged and ostracized she feels, the more pushed into his arms she may also feel. Like it's her and OM "against the world"

We cannot tell you what might get your wife back. We only know that what you resist, tends to persist.

She said she wants space in order for her to decide (SEEMS as if she's acting like she has not chosen OM, so much as "just wants to explore it"??? Yeah well....)

but the thing is, now all You need to do is decide how you want YOUR LIFE to go.

So, back to YOU...how are those 180s and GAL?

Keep up the great work. You are going to make a great h someday, and we can hope it's with her.

But I think what we truly hope is that it's with a woman who "really gets" you...and that you continue on your path to being the best man you can become. The two of you will make a great team.

No I would never ask them to do that. I just asked them to not speak about her to me. Same with family.

So this morning I received a text from W requesting to use the house for a week, so she can spend time with our friend that is in town. I am kinda torn on this request. if she is there I will not be staying there. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

Let her meet friend at OM's house, since that is who she is with. You shouldn't let her "use" you or your time one iota.