Catching up so i'm a bit dated on all this but i'm glad you've moved out. In house seperation is hard at the best of cases and yours definitely wasnt one of the best.
I'm glad you had fun at the ceroc weekend. A couple of people (and the instructors) went from the class i've started going to and I know they were really looking forward to it.
Jim, I have moved out tempoarily, I will still need to stay some nights as the house is close to work. It is up for sale though so I am trusting that eventually this will be permanent. The key thing is I am mentally 'out of there'.
There would have to be real change in H before I am back in. V still stands for V and and an R without abuse.
I will catch up soon on your thread. Really want to hear about your holiday.
V
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Maybell OD needs to trust his body, that if he Cerocs more then he will get good muscle memory and it will be easier. I will make it absolutely clear OD and I were at a very large dancing event only. There were thousands of dancers there. No IRL intended or happening, so if you other DBs want to dancing GAL (and you know who you are!) then it's safe territory.
We can (as members of the OD cheer team) cheerfully say, OD is GAL.
And it is dancing GAL!
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Hi V, very powerful stuff you left on my thread and I am so grateful. I suppose I'll post a bit more tomorrow after I digest and see how he is tonight when I return.
I am following along with you, and am so happy for this beginning of your newest journey! I think for months you had a number of concerned fans, and though I can't speak for all, I am relieved. I know it's not going to be all kinds of smooth sailing ahead for you, but I sense you're sailing and free.
Vanilla comes in all kinds of exciting flavors...French, Tahitian, Spice...let's never hear you refer to yourself as plain ole again! Clearly you're anything but.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
Hope you had a lovely time V, it sounds like so much fun!
You're probably all danced out today but when you have a moment could you stop by Zelda's thread over in piecing? Some concerns about violence over there and I was hoping you might be able to shed some more light on it.
It was great GAL.
Susan
I have visited Z thread and posted. It really helps to share this abuse and we have been discussing the issue in more depth. Here is the link
Hi V, Thank you so much for visiting Z's thread. I had a feeling you could offer some good insight and wisdom as always. Thank you!
I am glad you had a good GAL. When will you have to be at house with H? Please take care of yourself. I know you have good boundaries but it still sounds scary.
I think I figured out how to connect H's speakers tonight. At least for a little bit or about certain things. I thought of your bestie and made him a tea when he got home. Although sadly I didn't get all of my goals for the evening.
Thanks again for stopping by Zelda's thread. I saw your conversation. Such great insights!
S x
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
Thanks V. Again, really appreciate you stopping by Z's thread, you have so much wisdom! Well, the Bass might be connected but this morning I'm wondering whether it's too late. We shall see.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
"Mentally out of there"....LOVE IT! Good for you, V. Keep on keeping on, strong lady! You deserve the best.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Although sadly I didn't get all of my goals for the evening.