Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Part 16 - edz, just edz

Now I can recognise BFT and wave in passing.

The red is the clay dust in the litter, will wash out EDZ.

But hard to explain to guests and visitors, why white sheets have a red paw design.


BTW Big G used to use the spare loo, as one pee and his litter tray was full and wet, he did not like having wet paws. When endearing soul had a bladder infection in old age he preferred the old butler sink in the garden, so I made a litter tray with a drain in it and it was easier to wash too. He was very proud of the noise he made and used to rattle and dig in the sand to let everyone know about his achievement. Lots of squeaking and general chit chat.

I miss Big G very much indeed.

V

Aww Big G sounds very very much like my dads big ginger he had, very intelligent, very prideful tail rod upright as he walked was a big ginger cushion of a cat

Are you considering a BFT at the moment V or waiting for now?

Bringing another creature into the mess which is Vs living circumstances may be a mistake. I travel, a kitten like my timmie who always travelled with me from kittenhood and who love cars, hotels, new places would be great.

My cats live until they are 20 or more (in general) which would leave me with practical issues so an older cat would be better.

Older cats not so keen on travel, although Big G loved my Brighton flat but he hated the car. An older dog may suit my lifestyle better but in truth my heart belongs to puss.

So I am happy to have a part share in BFT for the moment until I resolve my dilema.

V

No worries there V

Had one of those people trying to help moments that leaves you befuddled, mate of mine asking had I been dating (why are people so interested in if Im dating - Im not that interesting!) said no im just getting on with things right now.

Eventually subject was dropped but left me seriously discombobulated. I know why though Im looking for certainties and there arent any here right now. W may or may not be moving toward being more interested in maybe reconciling and she may well entirely possibly not be.

A dead cert this aint.

And thats whats bothering my subconcious and gets stirred up with these kind of conversations. Yes I could date, may meet someone terrific, may not, may find no ones interested or may meet someone im with for 40 years more BUT it wont be wife or my family as it could be. Still love her, still want her back and my family as it can be.

Not something you can get over in a quick conversation though!

Anyway just journalling...

Well w came back to me on mothers day plans, nothing organised, she doesn't seem to object if Im about saying she's happy to leave it up to me. Hardly a ringing endorsement but better than a no I'd rather not I suppose.

Not sure, I'll probably book lunch for the three of us - part of me thinks should I do this? If not though s isn't going to make her a special lunch himself at 10 he can help with one but Id rather not end up personally cooking as I cant see w relaxing too much here on m'day then needing to go back and I dont want to cook at the flat.

Not doing it may make her think about missing out on good times but its mothers day not an anniversary. A hard call really as it puts s in the middle, something I dont want to do.

Lunch booking it is. I think.

Hi Edz, I would very much let S take a lead and merely facilitate what he wants to do for his Mum....

Hi Toots, yes - well - apart from an action figure his next thought was a nice dinner hence the above. Did consider a breakfast but that gets into early mornings and going around picking up early on a sunday (cant exactly do breakfast in bed this year)

Well nothing from w since.

A bit low again tonight. Its ok, nothing like the early days of the sitch. Just feel tired today.I dont and am not giving up but today is a hard day.

Edzs dating does change your perspective and I can see why well meaning Friends wanted me to sooner.

You will be ready when your ready, but it is chicken and egg thing. this time last year, I was stating I wil, forever be single.

Now not so much, but if I had not gone out with x, I would still be flipping and flopping on stuff. It's been a huge game changer, fairy god mother stated shows you can still pick up old chook!

If nothing more then awesome, anything with x from now is a bonus. A real bonus.