Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Part 16 - edz, just edz

Well off to pick up s for swimming shortly will be interesting to see if w has reverted to being distanced now she's back at the flat (as opposed to the "new ground" of my place).

Was an interesting thing that she agreed moving back there contributed in a big way to our problems and, for the first time in 16 years, she concurs her m's behaviour is narcissistic - interesting although I dont imagine this will lead to her setting boundaries with mil any time soon.

Catch you all later.

Addendum we were talking about moving back there 4 years ago not her moving back last year after bd.. (Flipping edit time restrictions!)

Edz


Now back away gently, no chasin remember.

Also lovely program on cats on 5. You can catch it on 5 plus 1.

V

Will take a look v, no chasing from me bar normal interaction on s and responses to her messages (without going into long chains)

We'll see I suppose.

Seems lots going on on your thread I'll be over in a mo. Feeding bft first.

Well time to chill out. Another busy one and 2 1/2 hours with s in the pool followed by the numbing inevitably of tescos, shopping fuel for the week and coming home.

Seems a little easier tonight, chilling finally with a glass of red before heading to bed. Have a day choc a block with phone calls tomorrow so torn. Quite like to go into the office for the company but would be far far far easier to deal with from the quiet of the office at home. Think I'll take a look at the weather in the morning and decide.

Curled up on the sofa with the bft. I'm still very lonely for close company and,yes, that too after a year (bd wasn't bd for everything) but whilst nothing has majorly changed I do feel w has slightly opened up to me last few days which while I'm seasoned enough to know not to open myself to expectations I do have a soupson more hope tonight.

Good morning all and for a brief moment its actually sunny with blue skies outside (forecast says dont get attached to it today unfortunately!)

Decided to wfh today and go into the office tomorrow. have a lot of calls some with multiple countries and it can be hard enough to hear them at the best of times without a lot of office noise.

W texted me some humerous texts on s's behaviour last night replied warmly but didnt get into a long chain, then got emails on some news events before she started posting funny bits on fb.

Seems she may be feeling a little happier if nothing else but hard to tell from here, I will just leave her her space to decide her next move.

Other than that finishing off a chunk of early calls then I'll exercise and grab a shower (didnt feel like it at 7 with a 7:25 call!)

And thats me right now, really over to w to make the next move unless something happens out of the ordinary.

Well I've been sort of stuck in a position where I need to talk to w about sunday. Mothers day here in the uk on sunday and s would like to organise something nice (afternoon tea or similar) at a hotel (I note he's not paying ) Its a lovely idea and a tradition I started when he was a bump BUT things are different this year

So I've emailed w to ask does she have something already organised (such as seeing her m) or did she have an idea on swapping around days (otherwise she wont see him on md till late in the evening). I'm happy to work with s to set something up but I dont want to tread on her plans.

Typical, first year s proactively wants to organise something (think he had a taste of it here with his room then similar at the flat and now he's getting into the swing of bossing people, errr I mean, project organisation)

Its tricky though fine line between trying to be thoughtful on w and s for mothers day and subconciously slipping into an excuse to pursue, I'm watching myself closely.

Hey V, this isnt BFT for obvious reasons but very very similar (*whispers* this one's thinner - said quietly so she doesnt attack meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, ow!)

Thinner BFT alike

BFT

I bet you keep those socks nice and clean!

Purrs and nice chicken for BFT

V

funnilly they often turn pink, when I clean and disinfect her cat loo and then dry it but put in the new litter its a reddish colour, when its frsh the dust turns her white feet pink, looks like she has booties on!

I dont think she's too impressed and Ive long ago learned NOT to coincide litter tray cleanouts with fresh white bedsheets!