Yes she is but how long do you think this will last. She asked me to reserve a hotel room for them this weekend. I looked at her and said are you serious no I wont if you guys want a hotel room for this weekend he can pay for it. She told me he doesnt have the money and I said thats not my problem now is it.
She asked me to reserve a hotel room for them this weekend. I looked at her and said are you serious no I wont if you guys want a hotel room for this weekend he can pay for it. She told me he doesnt have the money and I said thats not my problem now is it.
WOW, that takes some b@lls on her part. There is no set timeline of how long her A will last, so you need to move past that line of thinking. I suggest you get up to speed on those boundaries asap!!
Wow MWKS - I can't believe she asked you to book them a hotel room!!!
Your reply was spot on. You could have added a boundary, positively saying you will not support her conducting an A in any practical or financial sense. If she wants to continue disrespecting your M in this way, she has to sort out her own problems.
Just asking you is incredibly disrespectful (IMHO....in fact I'm seething on your behalf - can you tell??) I would be very firm and clear on your boundaries for sure right now.
As for how long it will last - who knows? I read that around half of A's fizzle out within 6 months...but they can last as long as a couple of years. Only a tiny percentage 1-3% result in M, and there is a 75% D rate for them....dismal forecast if you're having an A - but good if you're a LBS....albeit settle yourself in for a long nd bumpy ride my friend.
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
The stats are not good for affairs turning into long term marriages... lol look at me. My marriage started off as an affair (without my knowledge that's what it was!!!!!!) We married and decided to have kids VERY quickly. He was only "happy" for a little over a year. If kids/marriage wouldn't have been involved it would have been over before the 1yr mark.
You have to keep reminding yourself that it's only the fantasy everything is perfect for so long. Eventually reality sets in and there are problems. Some quicker than others.
Originally Posted By: Toots
Wow MWKS - I can't believe she asked you to book them a hotel room!!!
Your reply was spot on. You could have added a boundary, positively saying you will not support her conducting an A in any practical or financial sense. If she wants to continue disrespecting your M in this way, she has to sort out her own problems.
Just asking you is incredibly disrespectful (IMHO....in fact I'm seething on your behalf - can you tell??) I would be very firm and clear on your boundaries for sure right now.
As for how long it will last - who knows? I read that around half of A's fizzle out within 6 months...but they can last as long as a couple of years. Only a tiny percentage 1-3% result in M, and there is a 75% D rate for them....dismal forecast if you're having an A - but good if you're a LBS....albeit settle yourself in for a long nd bumpy ride my friend.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
