My h wanted the negative pay offs, he seems to like drama. It makes him feel needed.
He really like to jump to any emgerency and his work often provided them, when people are greatful for the emergency help.
But for a long time he got positives from work and negative validation from me. Narcs only mirror back. They focus on one thing they think you want and mirror back. they don't think as deeply as they want you to believe.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Have you ever worked on a long term project at work? One that took many months or even years. Sometimes these projects work and sometimes they don't. Either way when it is done you look back and wonder if you could ever do that again. Marriage is like that. It is a long term project that you have to put effort into. When it keeps moving forward it is great. When it ends you are left wondering if you ever want to take on a project like that again. Until a project comes along that peaks your interest you need to sit back, take a deep breath, do the simple day to day things that don't take a lot of effort, and recoup. Don't go looking for that new project till you have recouped and put this one to bed.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
