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Never need fear v tonight bft had chicken ham cat biccies and is presently absolutely spark out on the sofa. Shortly I'll head for bed after which I'm sure she'll transplant herself to the duvet

I would hold meno, as totally responsible.

I was being told meno, was drama for being angry cranky and tired.
It had nothing to do with h, picking fights, waking me up 100 times per night from kicking me or his direct behaivour threats and hitting my s17. All this things were directly within his control,

Truned out while I don't have any hormone changes to have meno, I had 100% of the symptoms and they were also the same as stress and pressure and anxiety.

So don't always think this time you have found the magic bullet.

Hi Gg

honestly no idea if it plays a part or not, mentioned in my posts my owned issues, w put me on a shelf while she got on with things and s and I delt with it by internalising my unhappiness instead of tackling it. Communications stalled and here I am.

Wow, 4 months of counselling in one sentence there!

To be serious (a rare occurance from me) no I dont blame any biological issues any more than I blame w or I completely, maybe theres a role played - I dont know, maybe w does, until we one day sit down and discuss how she feels we got here without demonisation and it all being my fault, I try to resist too much mind reading

And with that to Bed with me....come hither bft I have a foot to keep warm!

Need a purple bed sock for the other foot?

V

Morning, ha no bft can cover both although she slept all night up near me at the top of the duvet.

And finally coffee time!

This morning much like yesterday, the drain guys are back for the last day fixing the new top cover (old ones had rusted so theyre changing at the same time) and re concreting. Back to the office tomorrow.

Managed to up to 35 reps on those horrible trunk exercises this morning. Was hoping to ramp up to 50 by the end of next week but boy do they ache afterward, hopefully it means good exercisey things are happening, still seem to have muffins about me though (and not the good cappucino chocolate ones, mmmmmmmm cappucino chocolate muffins mmmmmmmmm).

Nothing from w since the email on expenses, Im not pursuing her today she can come back to me or I'll contact her on s pickup times tomorrow. I suspect she's busy running around after s as normal but theres also likely some confusion and possibly anger as it normally surfaces when I start talking finances. She was the tresurer in the family and we got in a mess, I dont blame her but I think she resented me not stepping in to fix things (I was in my work,work,work phase at this point) as I mentioned a few threads ago she tackled me on the fact I was doing all this now she was gone and she was pi55ed about me cancelling dds from the joint account.

Generally Im getting confused signals right now, not confused for me to interpret as in she seems confused, she's not making any moves toward talking r but seems reluctant to move on (except spend money on decorating the flat). When she sees me doing something that breaks my old following behind her script she does pick up on it but she's the store it away for later type not reactionary. Hence she sat on my car parking space comment for several days before mentioning it when we discussed things on the phone.

Aaaaanyway, working today then no real plans tonight may wire up some led lighting to backlight the tv unit but not sure I want to now I got them, quite like the lighting in the room. Mmm will need to think on that one.

Thanks for your comments on my thread Edz. Ooh, backlit tv.....nice! I've seen those LED strip lights and fancied trying those.

In terms of your W, I think what you said is fair enough. You feel some steps need to be taken and you've done that. She's probably just taking a little time to consider and reply.

Good job with the exercises....no pain, no gain my friend!

Thanks Toots, well the pain is here, I think the gain may be coming the long way around as it seems to be taking its time

Impatience, Edz, all is impatience. Went through the chest of drawers last few days to see what I have in ready for Summer (ha! we have sleet today!) and found the shorts I had bought back in July (bittersweet as they arrived in the post the day after w left) at the time they were tight on - one of the things that gave me a kick in the behind to start loosing weight. Tried them on and without a belt they literally fall down - 70s comedy style - so thats at least reassuring. Would have been a laugh out loud moment for anyone around me thankfully only bft was there with a paw over her head snoring.

We both both have simlair issues

Fix it, lack of patience and weight.

I'm still not getting 100% control yet! On any score.

Noticed the interwebtubez ate the bottom of my post commenting on this. Yes its a £20 kit from Ikea. I have three short wood table lamps set up in the lounge two on the front floor standing speakers either side of the tv and one next to the sofa on one of the rear floor standers. Theyre all set up to a remote control power switch so can be turned on and off from that.

I was going to put this behind the tv and set it up so those can be turned off and the backlight on (for movies etc) not sure though as I like the warmth in the room with the lamps on....mmm... need some more work on that room rug and eventually a new curved sofa to set up a more cosy area at the end of the room as its a little open plan right now, nice and contemporary but feels a little "cold" at times when its just me there.