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You are coming to the right place for validation. I'm sure you sent your hubby's attitude sky high asking for him to wake you for a hug. I'd be thinking about that all day, and probably hoping for more than a hug

I hope you are feeling better

Myrrh,

You did better than good!! You did GREAT!!!!

We love you too!!

Pattie

Well, I screwed up a little later on. I called him a couple of times randomly later on - I had a 102 degree fever, and wasn't sleeping very well. I called to ask him to bring the iron home, and I called to ask if I needed to wake S up and give him meds, or just let him sleep. Those were okay, and he wasn't mad.

But I woke up at 2am all grouchy (and burning up) and he wasn't home yet - sooo (DARNIT!) I called and asked him if he wanted me to call my offie answering service to leave a message for my boss that I wouldn't be in, since he wasn't going to be in any shape to take care of Rhane from 7am on. I didn't exactly yell, but I wasn't very nice either, and I know I made him feel bad. He said he'd be home in a little bit, and he showed up about 45 minutes later (2:45).

Instead of giving him a piece of my mind, I told him I was sorry for being mean - I was just feeling really sick and wasn't mad at him (I really wasn't by that time). He said "It's okay; I'm used to it." That made me really sad. We snuggled, and eventualy there was , although I think I may have singed him a bit because I felt like I was on fire (with FEVER!!!). BTW - before any of you start feeling sorry for poor Myrrh whose H makes her when she is gravely ill, it was my idea. Very little gets in the way of that for me!

Our morning was mostly okay, except that I was kind of grouchy since I hadn't gotten a lot of sleep. Then S spit pink medicine all over my new dress shirt, so that was NOT fun. I do need to work on my morning attitude. I seriously just need to get more sleep, I think. Especially when we are all sick like this.

For any of you who are wondering, Flylady has been a bit out the window since S is so sick - although he was much better this morning, so maybe we'll even get to go to church tonight!
Good morning to all!
Myrrh

Glad to see that you had a good evening (all things considered).

Sounds like your apology went over well, even though his response wasn't what you were expecting. He's given you a clue... but being sick should be off limits anyway.

Go you!

Boy, hopping around threads today and seeing all this talk of sex!! I am longing for the time in the future I can have that closeness again. Hopefully months, but at the rate I'm going, it may be years Oh my my my my my.....

Well back to the moment. I hope you and S can have a restful day. Flylady should be on vacation until you're feeling better.....

Hmmmm, quick suggestion...

What if you imagined that your phone ceases to function at a certain time? After midnight, it becomes a pumpkin and no longer can you use it to call out or receive calls in. Then it might be easier to NOT call him because it wouldn't be an option...and on the same note you wouldn't be waiting for him to call you! Whatcha think?

Well, I thought your suggestion was excellent, Mer. So, my phone turned into a pumpkin at ten tonight. I pushed it up a little because I get grouchy shortly after ten pm - so tonight I logged off the comp with H at about 10:30, did NOT call him to say goodnight, and am going to o some picking up before I head to bed.
I'll let ya know how it turned out in the morning.
Hugs!
Myrrh

Considering you posted this at midnight, I'd say you're off to a pretty good start!

My friends thought I was ridiculous in doing this, but when my H told me that his biggest complaint was me picking fights with him during his wind-down-before-bed time...I had to use the broken phone concept. Mine couldn't work after 8pm, and truthfully, it still rarely does make calls after 8pm to H!

Hell, it is the one and only change he noticed, so it must have worked somehow!

GO YOU!!!!

Funny, I used to pick fights before bed too. Wonder what that was about?

Good job, Myrrh. The pumpkin visual sounds like it works perfectly.... Mer has a great imagination!

Hugs,

Bets

Mer and Bets-
I sometimes wonder if this is why he doesn't come home early anymore...because I used to pick fights during that time.

Well, the pumpkin concept worked (broken phone wouldn't - as long as I still think it's a phone, I'll use it. But I can't call him on a pumpkin!). I did not call him - I went to bed aorund midnight after getting a dose of Mars and venus before bed. I find that it really helps me to get some motivation in the form of relationship literature, especially at that time of night, so I read some DR (for the 500th time) or Mars and Venus, or whatever.

The munchkin (also known as S) wandered into my room about 12:30, and after putting him back in bed a few times, I decided to just stop fighting it and let him sleep with me until his dad came home.

Lo and behold, the H came home at 1:30!!!! That is a full hour and a half earlier than he came home the last night, and I was able to greet him happily (if sleepily) because I had absolutely nothing to feel bad for. He took S back to his little bed, tucked him in, and then we did our usual snuggling and such, and both drifted off.

Since I got enough sleep last night (and am mostly over my case of The Plague), I was really pleasant this morning, and we got ready together. We were all hanging out in the bathroom together and it was really cozy.

S's teacher at daycare told me that a lot of kids had been out sick both with a stomach virus (that was Friday for us) and sinus/ear infections (that was what we were dealing with all week). There were only a few kids there when I dropped him off - I guess its just that time of year!

Anyway, last night was a success, and I am going to make sure that tonight is just as good!
Hugs to all,
Myrrh