Hello Am I the only one worried about Vday? Or the only one trying NOT to stress over it? The only one with a plan A and plan B (both include treating myself)
Found H a just in case non mushy card for $1.00. Will get him a couple of his favorites treats just in case (s14 and I can always eat them if I do not give them to H)
Also getting s14 a couple of his fav treats.
I like giving gifts/stuff.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
No, there are many others stressing over this "over rated" holiday. You've got a Plan A and B, so why are you worried about the day? It will either one of two ways, either he will ignore it or you'll get a card and maybe something else.
I would continue to focus on today and let the future take care of itself. It's just another day on a long list of holidays that Hallmark makes a fortune off of.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Definitely stressing about Vday. I think in a different way than you, tho.
I am worried that OM has plans for my W that are going to be too secretive to verify, but obvious enough that I will obsess over them. I worry that my W will make up some excuse why she has to be out of the house Saturday night - and then my interminable perseverations over where she went will begin.
I am stressed because I have not been able to detach. I wish I could be totally indifferent to my WAWs actions.
I like the idea of doing something for myself, but I am at a loss for what to do. I sooo need a social life.
So you already have plotted out what you "think" might happen.
Your in dissolution process so your W is not "thinking" about you or your R (I know that that hurts)
SO FIND something to do yourself this weekend, stay busy, GAL, treat yourself. Go away for the weekend if you can, even just get a hotel room and tell your W before she plots her weekend that she has the kids and you have plans.
What do you enjoy?...can you take even a day trip, visit your parents, or siblings, friends...?
Just do not sit in house all day on Vday worried about what your W is planning.
My H might still have a OW (I just dont snoop and if so it will come out anyway) last year he got busted sent me pink roses and OW red roses...so this is not a holiday I'm all excited for,,,but to make sure I dont let what H did ruin it for me, I'm taking back VDay and making it special for me.
I like holiday's and reasons to celebrate,
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Karma12, what kind of flowers and make sure you buy them:)
Struggled a little yesterday,,,Vday bringing back hard, sad angry emotions from last year..
So I took extra time getting dressed this morning, I will not allow my H's low down dirty dog crap from last Vday to affect me, that was His mistake and it's not going to bother me...
I'm wonderful, I'm beautiful, I'm a good person...
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
