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Leon01 #2535477 02/07/15 07:29 PM
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Wise friend. cool


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OK, this GAL thing is a stroke of genius!

Just left the house. Clean shaven, dressed nice, cologne, the works. She was sitting downstairs when I left. The look on her face was priceless. Yeah, I know, I am doing this for me. But it feels great!


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Decided just to come into the office to get some work done instead of going to a movie. There's not much out that I am interested in anyway.


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Personally, I've recently discovered the pleasure of going for a drink by myself, sitting at the bar. I discover new places, I experiment with drinks and food, and sometimes I meet new people. Afterwards, it feels like I've really GALed.


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Originally Posted By: Mozza
Personally, I've recently discovered the pleasure of going for a drink by myself, sitting at the bar. I discover new places, I experiment with drinks and food, and sometimes I meet new people. Afterwards, it feels like I've really GALed.


I thought about that. But I don't want to risk a DUI or come home with alcohol on my breath. Especially with a potential custody battle coming up.


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Some other thoughts on some crazy stuff the W said recently:

During one of my rule breaking moments (right around BD#2) I asked the W if she would let me work on our issues. To which she said "you shouldn't have to 'work' on any issues with me. You should want to do them."

During our first MC session, when it was my turn to speak (mind you, I did not interrupt her when she spoke) I was saying something about how I felt that some of our problems is that we have different love languages. I said that mine was touch and hers is quality time. She then cut me off and said "See, you don't understand. I want it ALL!"

Does this make any sense?


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Leon01 #2535735 02/08/15 09:06 PM
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Well, yesterday's high just came crashing down. She's no longer wearing her engagement or wedding rings.

Let's see if she wears them to work tonight.


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Leon01 #2535907 02/09/15 02:23 PM
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I was able to check her purse and work bag this morning. No burner phone. But it is still not looking good.

I really have to detach. Which is hard because we see each other and talk often. She usually starts the conversation though.


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Leon01 #2535912 02/09/15 02:31 PM
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The phone could just as easily be in her car.

In whose name is her car titled?


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Originally Posted By: Leon01
Some other thoughts on some crazy stuff the W said recently:

During one of my rule breaking moments (right around BD#2) I asked the W if she would let me work on our issues. To which she said "you shouldn't have to 'work' on any issues with me. You should want to do them."

During our first MC session, when it was my turn to speak (mind you, I did not interrupt her when she spoke) I was saying something about how I felt that some of our problems is that we have different love languages. I said that mine was touch and hers is quality time. She then cut me off and said "See, you don't understand. I want it ALL!"

Does this make any sense?


Yes, both very much SCRIPT. It's very typical of the wayward mindset, whereby they basically take a "Great -- so NOW you're changing!" stance, resent the h*ll out of your positive changes. It's also very likely that by the time she went to MC with you, she was already "done" or -- at a minimum -- so emotionally connected with an OM (or the fantasy of one) that she's basically physiologically BLOCKED to you.


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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