30m later i go downstairs and he's still gaming. She s playing by herself. He says yeah just 3 more minutes, then Im going to do an activity w her. Pffff....
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
He sounds like a big child himself. He will have to make sure when he has the children that he is providing a child safe enviorment for them. Take note of things you are concerned about. Keep a journal now and when you do eventually separate. If your children are coming home in wet clothes or not fed ect....you can request the custody to be 70/30 instead of 50/50. I am all for men having equal access to their children and I do believe they benefit from having both parents with them as much as possible. That being said you also have to be a parent when you have your kids and realize they are the priority not the games.
You sound like you are planning wisely and holding your cards close to your chest. Now is the time to take care of you. Hugs to you
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
