I'm no expert and going through my own issues but it sounds like he is going through a MLC just like my wife. If you guys get a D than he can do what ever he wants without consequences or feeling guilty after all you are D. I'm also terrified of being single and a father to three young kids, today I had to make the hardest decision in my life and let go. You have an advantage of not having kids not that makes it easier but it wI'll also make it less painful, really think about what you want your life to be. Do I want to live with him and only be roommates?
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
