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It was total frustration on my part. She hung up on me and for some stupid reason I needed her to know I wasn't accusing. I know dumb. I haven't had a setback in awhile, I guess it was time for one.

I'm also getting guilt trips. Or is this her manipulating me? She repeatedly said she's done talking and I keep agreeing. She even called me back after we were done talking. I thought she was done talking. If I try to end it she continues on about how she has to go. Ya I know, that's why I'm trying to end the conversation.

Then I get a text, "now I can't take s3 swimming anymore".

So I tell myself screw it. I'm going to drive them to the pool. I don't want my son to miss out because we were being idiots.

Don't fault yourself. It's hard to shake the desire that your partner not misunderstand you or think ill of you. It's natural. Onward and upward

Oh don't get me started on the word "misunderstood". I use that word frequently and my ex says she effing hates that word. She says we don't misunderstand we're just two people who can't get along. I call bs on that. She then attempts to define what misunderstood means. Totally wrong btw.

Ugh!!!

I feel so sh*tty. I just dropped them off at the pool. On the way there she decided to tell me that she's never been more angry at me. And that every time she goes to see her family we end up fighting(bs again). She tells me that she doesn't do this(meaning start crap) when I have s3. Stupid me said "I feel like this everyday you're not here". And if I remember correctly I also think i said she ruined my life. Great. How do you come back from that. I just can't stand her acting like the victim yet denying it. She constantly tells me it's all her fault yet will say that she doesn't say stuff like"poor me".

If this is the angriest she's ever been with me, I don't know if she will ever cool down. F*ck!!! How does me asking a question lead to this?!? I think I'm rusty on my defusing skills. It's been awhile since we fought.

I think this cold I have is screwing with my head. I know not to say things yet they're coming out right now. What is wrong with me.

That didnt take long. She called an hour after that whole debacle and apologized. I'm still getting over the spew. I keep telling myself she will say stuff I don't want to believe during this part of her journey. I apologized as well. Told her some of the stuff I said was inexcusable. I really did feel so weird this morning. I felt sick and drunk but I wasn't drinking. I knew my brain wasnt working properly. Oh well. We seem to be back on track.

Funny thing is, well it's not funny but still. When she was at her mom's house visiting she got into a fight with her sister for the whole time she was there. She told me all about it on the drive home. Oh ya, I told her I'd pick them up because it's a long bus ride and they don't come often on Sundays. I got the feeling she was aware of some of her negative actions, but who knows. She thanked me for listening then texted afterwards telling me she didnt go out.

I ended up taking my son for the night. It was getting late by the time I got them back into this end of the city so I didn't get to play with him much. I made him a snack and let him watch a movie. I ended up playing some online with a few buddies who live across the country.

Here's a question a need a quick answer to.

Anyway, my ex informed me she has a bag of clothes for s3 that she got from a "friend" that she wants to sort through tonight. Honestly, if they are from om I don't want any(I don't want reminders). Am I been unreasonable?(they are just clothes). How do I bring this up? I have a feeling I should just stfu.

I would let him sort through the clothes. You don't have to use them and they can just disappear later if you don't like them, right?

Except for swaps(which is rare since I have him most of the time). He might be wearing them when he comes over and if they "disappear" she might wonder where there all went.

But this could all be moot if I know they came from somebody else or if somebody here said I was being a baby for caring where the clothes came from.

I'm just not sure if I should care or not where the clothes came from.

I don't think you should care at this point. They're just clothes.