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Was that a sarcastic question MrBond ?

Sorry to ask but it's hard to differentiate
At times.

"Was that a sarcastic question MrBond ? "

No.

Usually when a WAS has an A or leaves, typically they have SOME reason why they left and tell the LBS. Even if it's "I don't love you anymore" is a reason. The book will give you insight to this.

Have you started reading it yet?

Hi. Just saw your response to my post a few days ago. I was oh saying that your W seemed a little like mine and maybe I could offer some moral support There are a lot if people on here with wisdom and some like me who can offer support. No offence taken, we are all stressed and upset. Take care. Rd

yes MrBond she gave a few reasons why a break might be an idea the week i found out about A

1 she loves me but not like she should......from what i have read the past year this is a giveaway

2 we are like room mates

3 she said we seem to have nothing to say to each other anymore

4 i dont say i love her.....true and she always used to tell me
she loves me, i thought she knew i loved her but it turns out
she needed to hear the actual words "i love you"

so based on that, i would say she was hurt.
my guess would be she has told om all this and he has used the info to his advantage, so she now thinks om is the spiders eyebrows and she is angry at me because she thinks she has missed
out all these years.

or i might be way off

like you suggested the other day, im dwelling on the A and not focusing on competing (for want of a better word) with
om but im also thinking she cheated when she could have left
so is she worth it ?

om ex gf isnt helping, she says it was going on for ages but she didnt have any proof, shes a bit of a fibber herself, hates w
and tries to get in my head.


no not been able to download it as im still trying to find it
on the link you gave me

thanks for taking an interest

thanks rd500
moral support would be great, il have a look at your latest post later to see if i can offer anything.

it always seems that i can see other peoples situations more clearly than my own, do you find that too ?

oh and she said we have drifted apart

Are the things she said true?

i would probably say yes.
we used to be good together but around winter 2012 i think things started to go down hill, no specific reason, very very gradual.

not seen so much of her this week but when ive seen her she seems to be angry, shes moving out of her rented place this week, not sure if shes coming here or her mams, ive not asked.

And so in what ways have you changed to address the issues she had?

11. Do not say "I Love You" (It is being "pushy" and trying to make your spouse say it back to you......he/she will despise you for it.)

15. When at home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation---then don't, wait for him/her) then, be rather scarce or with your words, but don't sound rude or too short like you are mad. If your spouse asks what's wrong....just say "nothing" and have a pleasant expression on your face. Keep it short and simple. Don't get into an argument! Stay polite and don’ t act like you are pouting. Use poise and class. This does not mean to act like you aren’t speaking, but don’t be overly talkative.

35. Do not send several TM's or emails throughout the day unless absolutely necessary


this is where i need guidance MrBond, how do i implement these?


e.g i she wanted me to say i love her (which i do) but now im
not supposed to say it.

she said we dont have anything to say anymore but at the same time im supposed to "keep it short and simple and not be overly
talkative" etc

thanks again