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Come on gan you can do better, I was making another coffee.

Still need to feed the lambo and dogs.
Mutters about hounds already helped them selves to the nanas! They weren't even ripe, yet. Insert rolling eyes as well on the angry smiley.

So better take of the war paint and do other chores while making coffee.

I'll top up the biscuit barrel...

You know want I think is hairya$$ funny, is that even tho I have been a faithful human to any of my partners, it's seems the neighbours think I'm a hoe!

All of a sudden. I haven't been seen dating nor have I actually been out doing the wrong thing behind closed doors.

But boy do people think I have people who have known me for a very long time. Who should know better.


Seems taking pride in oneself and getting out with mates, confirms it.

Yet, h can cheat and behave badly and people tell me how he's a nice bloke! Defies logical thought process.

Ah but see you're not moping wearing hair shirts in your jamies till late in the day with puffy eyes from weeping..

S let slip mil/fil had said something similar a few weeks back about me, basically I'm somewhere between unchanged and about ready to be on the town every weekend for a replacement.

Sigh, people....

I know I work in retail remember, people are stranger than you realise.

It's Cinderella hour here, I better go nigh nigh, or I will look like an ow hoe!
And I will need to pack something in my under eye suitcases other than concealer.

Eeeewwww there were 3 flying ants doing back stroke in my coffee! Blerk

I need to be upright by the time our gun cupboard gets here, Via the guy who sold it to us. He's coming to see the filly too, another equine ethestist ( before you start exercising jumping to conclusions he's married).

me, jump to conclusions, neverrrrrr...

Sweet Dreams

I know I had a dream about h last night, first non night mare I have had. Strangely I had only dreamt about him once in our whole life together.

It was many years ago and h cheated, it pervaded my day and his reaction which was to treat it as a joke and pick at me kept me feeling off about it.


Last night dream which I can't really remember the details now, I know was a closure dream. It just closed everything off. I woke feeling so much lighter today, not bad for a non morning person who got woken by closest neighbour shooting at either ducks or cockatoos. I did go back to sleep, quite happy remembering it, but now it's escaped.

I think we focus on forgiveness a bunch around here, but you too can write your own closure story. It can be anyway you want, it has nothing to do with them.

I think like shining as I have been thru this before, that's why I kind of knew what to do. I was however no immune from thinking my h was different and I could be a friend while the ow was around. Later I pulled that out of the water with his lies and him telling me he had not done right by me $ wise. He didn't say that out loud but his actions and what he did say gave the game away.

Wise lesson learnt from db.

I need to be more switched on as I now firmly believe with h, he wasn't 100% honnest.
He wasn't really committed and the whole thing did shine thru which is why I always felt on edge. His words were what he thought I wanted to hear but his actions wishy washy.

He did ask re my needs to he could avoid delivering on them. lL is quality time, closely followed by acts of service. Often h would complain when I stated a need that if I didn't measure up he would serve out punishment by withholding.

I think I am more aware, I see things others don't. I was a little this way from before, but am putit g it together much more now. The missing piece is putting things together in the real world, but that I'm guessing is a life's work.

Gg

It is ironic how our subconscious sorts the mess despite interference from our punishing conscious mind. Closure as a dreamlike state, a vivid waking dream remembered from the depths of Orpheus, is the antithesis of the daymare that invades our waking hours.

Our mind given the tools can work it's magic. DB is contrary as there are suggestions that the conscious mind must learn to behave in a different way until the new replaces the old behaviour. In concious terms hard work. And then poof out of the blue a closure dream.

Gg and your kick ass attitude you are moving to happiness, closure is a milestone moment.

I salute you
Vanilla

I thought this thread looks a bit full and there appears to be a cat moment in the corner.

So I started a new like sheets, fresh and clean.