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Didn't you mention waaaay early on about he keeps old clothes, and that was a big deal when he got rid of some stuff?

If it is indeed you who mentioned that.... give him a pass on the clothes in the trunk.

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H keeps everything as much as he possibly can. It usually after begging or totally running out of space THEN he will maybe donate something or throw away...MAYBE

So my H newphew has a wedding in July

We will be going as a family out of town for the wedding and staying with my SIL and family.

I want to think this means H has no plans on living our M. But I dont really see him "working" on our M. I will try to not over think this...

I dont know why I mention this or why Im even thinking about it...

Happy,
I wouldn't over think this wedding invitation right now. It's 6 months away and anything can happen between now and then. It will be interesting to see if he opts to work on the marriage or choose a rabbit hole to hide in. I'm hoping he'll wake up enough to realize that he has a great wife and a wonderful family.

I will try not to read anything into this.
H seems excited and asking alot of questions and being in contact with his sister.

I pray H realizes how great of a wife woman person I am:)

S14 gave me a very attitude filled day.
if its not one thing its something else.
I DB son...told him in as calm as i could way to watch his mouth change his attitude told him how he will respect me and sent him to bed No Tv No superbowl...
But it did make me think about raising him alone and how much harder it would be.

Got to stay focused kids are very easy to get off track

Oh wow
S14 caught watching tv
After some more words
S14 tells me I have cause him emotional and mental pain and that when im mad at my mom or H i take it out on him.
Oh my goodness i dont think this is true but

this is how s4 feels

I dont know if this is just something he is saying. Today s14 was in trouble about grades and being disrespectful..

The incident with S14 last night got me spinning, got me thinking too much about my H and our issues.

I do think that when Im upset or holding back feelings from H, that I may over react out of frustration with my S14.

S14 also said I'm always angry, now I dont think that is true but if that is how he sees me,,,could it be true?

I'm still very upset this morning, MAD at H for always being at work, I feel like a single parent, I'm upset with myself for overreacting, I'm upset that my emotions still to be spinning this am....I wanted to YELL and SCREAM at H last night when he finally got home,,,his reponse was that I often talk to s14 with anger in my voice, borderline hateful sounding,,,

I wanted to YELL and scream and tell H to GET OUT.

Now I know I must continue to work on me, I have to "fix" these issues with myself and my S14.

My Mom said I get angry and the way I sound, the way I talk, the anger on my face she said it is too much, and that I should wait until I'm not as upset before I express myself.

I really hear them all I do, but I wanted to just run away, get away, all I'm hearing them say is how horrible I am...I know that is not what they are saying but that is what I hear.

My anger will cause me to shut down and shut them out, I will not go back to that person, I've worked hard to not be that person...but sometimes I need a break

I dont feel like anyone is here for me in my family that it is always about what I need or can do for them and its draining me, aging me,,,hurting me