Hi OGDA, I see the shift toward you and I know it's not as intense like November, but it's still a shift. If C continues to initiate more friendly contact with you, are there any changes in your responding (or not responding) that you may want to consider this time? Maybe just be the fact you are more actively dating puts you in a different place than last time. What do you think?
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I don't know if it is a real shift or not - I had told her before she went on long weekend w/ OG that I was tired fighting for the M. That I give up. I told her to have a good time on her weekend because I felt she deserved to be happy.
I had also strongly hinted to her bookkeeper/Friend and to her Sis that I was dating and I believe she knows I am on Match. I got an IM from her the next day after she got back from long weekend and she asked to come over for dinner Friday night. I was very friendly and upbeat and as I left she stuck her head out of the door after we said our good byes and said "I also just wanted to say, you really looked great tonight".
I sent her an email on Monday thanking her for the dinner and she responded with an IM and we chatted for a few on Monday. I called her on Tuesday to see how her meeting with a prospective buyer for her business and we chit chatted some more. Since then no contact altho I have seen her online some.
I don't know if it is my turn to ask her out to eat or what. Even with the candle light dinner and some of the other positives, I really don't feel like there was anything there. Don't know if that feeling was coming from me or from her. Right now, my gut feeling is saying that since she wanted the friendship to work, I will respond positively to any actions she takes but I don't feel like I should pursue any relationship with her at all.
Laurie - I called to set up a session with you but your schedule is full and you seem to not have any later appointments. I will call again on Monday or Tuesday to try to set up a time soon tho. I would like to get with you one on one on this. It has me really confused
