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Thanks jim,

I have alot of people that want me to come chill at there house. I have a few friends that I have talked to in debth about what im going thu they dont tell me what to do but tell me to give her space and thats all I can do .

Rick,

I know for a fact she has slept with another woman but she swears up and down no man. Its hard to believe her tho considering she is never home anymore.Its not to hard to just believe her either she never lied to me when we were together, that was one of the problems I had. If she is what should I even do? Like in my mind if she does I dont really care we are seperated and she needs her own life to relize the grass isnt greener over there because it would be life without our kids.

But to add to that also she would be leaveing me which she still tells me she loves me but she is not in love with me. Im gonna be changing ino
to a man that no woman in her right mind would want to leave and that will be pursued by many.

Today is hard I didnt sleep much last night. My wife is gonna be gone all weekend with her friends. She is going to a monster truck show today. Im here at home with the kids cleaning up the house, while doing this I feel like im doing it for us to pack up and leave eachother. I dont think this will be what happens in the end but right now thats how it feels.

I wish things were different right now but im trying the best I can to be happy and not think about her. Im having fun with the kids played wii bowling and took pictures and put them on facebook for my family to see. The kids enjoy the time they get to spend with me and vice versa.

Im gonna go to a friends later to watch the football playoffs. My friend has some kids so I will take the kids with and they should have a good time.

Am I foolish to think she isnt sleeping around and doing things she knows will hurt me when I find out?

The thing that I dont think she knows is I know what everyone of her friends look like and where they live and other personally information. I looked as soon as she started talking about them before the actually fight that was the "end".

I really dont know what to think anymore and what to do is just give her her space and basically work on me and hope it will be enough for this to work out.......

Yes give her space and live your life. Look good work out flurt talk to people. Have fun.

The thing about this is im perfectly content and even happy to stay home and play with my kids all day everyday they are alot like me and fun to be around most of the time. Thus being bad because she always knows that im home but I think it should bother her to know I am home and having a good time.

So its kinda hard still to not talk about her lol and what I think she is thinking and that doesnt matter what matters right now is what im doing. What im doing for my kids and for myself.

Just been goofing off with the kids all day we took pictures and put them on facebook of us playing around and us making pizza together. It was the best time ive had in a good couple weeks. My family was happy to see me doing things with the kids. They like to see pictures of the kids.

When she is out and knows your home........shake that up. Get out with the kids. Let her come home to an empty house.

Let her wonder. Be a little mysterious.

I have been through a lot since 2/2014
Maybe my threads will give you some insight. Also, read others threads, there are nuggets of good info. Everywhere.

Having fun with the kids is always a good thing. Take them out to the park to the movies have fun. Just enjoy them. My daughter loves coming over helping me cook and play video games even tho she is older. Santa got me the Xbox One and COD modern warfare .

I have been going to the gym everday since it happen it has helped alot I feel alot better while working out and after.
I had plans but it has been raining so they are gonna have to happen another time.

Ok so last night she was at a monster truck rally with her new friends and sounded kinda sad that the kids were not able to go. Then later she was saying on facebook her feeling are hurt. Im trying not to read into this to much but with all the stuff I was posting the kids have been having fun with me. I think she might be second guessing her decisions and feeling like she has made a mistake.

She knows if this goes fully thru to a divorce I will fight till I have nothing left for the kids. Im the one that always wanted kids she did not.