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SemperFi.... what a great name! Both my parents were Marines! I am sorry you are feeling this way, too. It is a black hole of a place to be.

The actual serenity prayer is an excellent one, buy I love Seinfeld, as well! Take care and say hi anytime!

Toots, thank you for your empathy. I am hoping for that clearer head... I;ll keep ya posted!

T-mom. I hope everything is alright. Haven't heard anything in a while. Now that the holidays are over, what are you doing to be good to yourself?

Take care.

Hey, u-turn! I am just checking in now because my life is completely insane. The Holidays could have killed a weaker person... lol.... but I am still here, in the same situation. H and I had a very bad vibe in the house during the week between Christmas and NYE. Anything that gets better goes away just as quickly. He is horribly depressed and I am not going to absorb all his negativity, while he is Mr. Happyface to everybody else. I am going to check on you now...

Ok, so craziness from the Holidays and Anniversary has subsided a bit... we pulled out of the dark cloud that was around the house for a while... I am not feeling nearly as crazy as I was, and I have a clearer head... YEA! Now what???? LOL.

Good to hear things have leveled off. I am so glad the holidays are over too.

Now what?

I'm told to focus on myself and kids. Seems like doing nothing because that is always being done though.

I am told to detach - not for the situation but for youself.

I get anxious when there is no movement though. I tend to try and make things happen because I don't want the same cycle to continue.

Keep on keeping on!

I read your last post and it made me realize I get anxious when there is nothing happening. I feel like it could be calm before another emotional storm, or am I doing something right.

Hang in there. You are not alone in this triathlon.

Come to think of it, I get anxious too and realized (too late) yesterday that I might be prone to do and say things that I regret because of that anxiety. I really need to learn to STFU!!!

Try to plan and act instead of react. I try to do the same.

I know - sometimes I do the same and don't stfu and regret what I have said, but most of the time I don't regret it.

Sometimes it is just a truth dart, not a name calling anger session, but a - this is how I see things moment. and I would really hope they would provide the same for us - sometimes we need their truth dart thrown at us so we can see their perspective.

I think my anxiety comes from lack of movement. It is something that I have always had in bad situations. I would rather get it over with instead of just looking at it and hoping it will fix itself.