Ahhh yes, well said, this really is the way forward
UpperCut Me: 28 W: 25 Married: 4 yrs Together: 7 yrs Dday: 9/14 (W ends affair & comes home) S: 12/14 (W restarted affair 1/15; moved near OM 2/15) No kids
To those who think this sounds great, but have no idea how the heck you are going to get there . . . just keep plugging along. Listen to the advice you are getting here, and although it may seem like you are hearing something a million times that is impossible, have faith that it is possible and one day, you WILL get it.
I remember so many times, getting great advice from vets (much of it from 25 -thank you for that, 25!) and thinking, "but, but, but . . . " Or, "huh??" Like me, you may feel like you are failing (and flailing!) again and again. That's OK. This stuff is not easy. But 25 is so right - if you DB, then no matter what happens with your M, you WILL be a better person and you WILL be happy.
Trust in the process and your own strength. They will get you where you need to be.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
Your motto - "Be the person only a fool would leave" was my mantra in the early days here, it kept me going and going. Faking it til I made it. I will always be grateful
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Wow....that was BEAUTIFUL! I really needed that right now and I greatly appreciate your eloquence in writing and your perfect timing in posting it. Happy Holidays to you!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
25 - Thank you for this! Happy Holidays to all DBers out there!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
