Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Happy New Year, uRworthy! Happy New Year to everyone!
Wonka, just read your post today. OMG, my name is on the list! I’m so flattered you remembered me! And thank you for the kind words. I feel like you know me better than I thought. I wish you the fabulous year 2015!
I’m so grateful for all the people and all the wisdom on this site.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
I hope your holidays were great - i think about ya all the time.
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Remember that you will not always feel as you do now. While these days are tough, know that you are tougher.
amazingly enough- it's true. haven't died from it all - feeling better in general - who knew???
Do not allow this to define your life.
it sure did for a few years - i hated feeling all "weak" & not me. Thank God it's receding
Find joy in each day. Make every moment count. Be present in the lives of those you love.
This i have conquered and honestly believe in it - the wisdom of it - It's the best thing to come from this horrible mlc (& mom's illness & death) & last bunch of years. - i truly am in the moment - and find it hard to even go back or think forward.
Know, without a single doubt, that you will be ok.
We love you for saying this- fingers crossed - everyone needs to hear it - "it'll be okay"
No matter what you decide, it mattered that you stood.
I hope so. Nice of you to say- it was/is a hard hard "battle". Especially for the conscious objectors like me. make love not war man.....
You are all amazing people..with such strength and heart and courage.
Never forget that you are worthy.
I hope so- that i'm worthy. i wonder sometimes because of my anger-bully sister saying "if you're having problems with alot of people - what's the common denominator - you" "maybe it's you". she's the queen of bad r's at work & home- yet, perhaps there's something in it. i'm doing something wrong- having trouble winkle-ing it out tho. my mom said & once my h said (quoting her) that I "care too much". maybe i had expectations too high for others? maybe i expected everyone to care as much as i did? oh well- that's pretty much dashed to bits- so maybe that?
oh well- in keeping with our continual quest to work on what we would like to "fix"about outselves - i'm just still goin with the same old things- more acceptance, more pateince. less anger or resentment , and so on. I am currently on courteous and pleasant basis with everyone (whatever they think to themselves about me - it won't be that i've ever "attacked" or bullied anyone)i really do believe in doing onto others...
okay- i'm outta here. i aspire to your calm and wise outlook about your past, h, r, etc. it's really something. i hope i can end up as generous in spirit as you.
so far- i'm not "there" about that (total forgiveness & wishing well). i still would not mind if he suffers like a dog in the end- after he's pushed me out of his life and i actually run away and he realizes i was somewhat wonderful- oh well. ( i know, revenge, so petty- but i sure have "paid" and paid for my "sins") we all do, don't we?) i wonder
xxoo
thanks for all your help as usual- it's always good to re-read the same old good thoughts & words to live by and remember to always remember them.
