11:20 pm How quickly success turns to disaster. Everything was going well. Both had baths. Get into bed started to talk but conversation soon returned to the "Stop putting pressure on me" defence to every thing I say and the infuriating "Don't know" answer to all questions. W askes no questions she just fends off anything I say with "don't know". I had a brainwave and asked her if she had married her perfect man - the one put on the earth for her - how much sex would she like. After a pause she said "None". I told her that I felt so sorry for her. We talked a little more in defeated tones and then 16yr old D burst into the room. I told her (fairly sharply) to leave us alone but W said "No, come in I want to talk to you". I stormed out and am now typing this. At this moment in time I want out. I want to search the world for my true HD soulmate. I used to think there were no HD women but recent experience and HDWs on this site give me hope. I am 46 in 2 months I am running out of time. CeMar and hairdog can't you see you're flogging dead horses. For christ sake get out before you too have my 20+ years of this frustration, disappointment, dispair, loneliness and emptiness. The book is bull to make money out of us suckers. I'd be very surprised if more than 1% NDs get "cured". They are like statues but we are Volcanoes! There must be women out there that can say "I love you" once a day instead of once in a lifetime. For financial reasons I'm going to stay for the rest of this year then next year's resolution is to GET A LIFE
The little voice of love inside me is crying out - Aquarian you are my inspiration please tell me what to do.
10:20am Please accept my apologies for my rantings of last night. Michelle: I'm sorry for the undue criticism. The problem is that I have not READ the book. I have skipped through it agreeing with all the descriptions of me in it. I must spend less time wallowing in self-pity on this forum and actually read and apply the suggestions.
I browsed the divorce orientated section of the forum and now realise that my problems are nothing compared to what they could be. I am going to eradicate all thoughts of finding someone else and concentrate on my family.
A light bulb switched on in my head and I am going to do a 180 on sexual advances. Here's why. We have two beautiful ginger cats and we love them dearly. They are sisters but completely different. Poppy is aloof and haughty. Cherry is loving and giving. This is how W reacts to them. Cherry jumps on her lap, climbs up her jumper rubs her head all over her and tries to lick her face. W waves her arms around and shoos her off. Cherry comes over to me, licks me all over and I give her a delicious full body massage until she is stretched out and purring - We are both HD. Poppy walks across the furniture with her head held high. Everyone is wondering who she will choose to sit on. She steps onto one child's knee then to another, hops over me and Cherry and settles gracefully on W without any fuss and just sits there purring. W's face lights up with pleasure and she strokes her very gently. They are both LD.
Do you see what I am getting at. We HDs are just too in-yer-face. There’s no mystery or anticipation. I am learning…
Unfortunately the change I am going to describe only works when the ND spouse does it. Anyway, I heard this on Dr. Laura the other day, a LD woman called in to complain that the husband wanted her to initiate more and she was never given the chance to initiate since the hubby was trying everyday. Solution? Dr. Laura told this lady that when men get rejected, then they will just try harder, and harder, and HARDER each of the following times, and these will times will come closer together. So to FIX this problem, the LD spouse must flat out initiate sex EVERYDAY for several weeks, and guess what, the MAN will have his needs met and will stop trying so hard to initiate with the women. After this the sex can drop off a little, to a frequency that is acceptable to the man.
Corrie - I like your style. You may be LD but you are also HM (Highly Motivated). My H is ND and NM. I left an interesting insight to HDs on your "I need some advice" thread. CeMar - You are the King of the HDs. I feel the same pain as you, I agree with your opinions especially regarding DESIRE but CeMar, not in a million years will my H ever initiate sex every day even for one week. She never initiated even when she was desperate for a baby.
Quote: Poppy walks ... with her head held high. Everyone is wondering who she will choose to sit on. ... settles gracefully on W without any fuss and just sits there purring. W's face lights up with pleasure and she strokes her very gently.
Work on your confidence and presentation. Flirt with your W as if you *can't* have her (if that makes any sense). Think of ways that she might end up wanting to seek you. Get some mystery going! Make yourself less predictable.
And if that doesn't work, act like Poppy and spray the couch next time you walk past it. Go into the corner and cough up a hairball. Or maybe it's time to get "fixed."
Pam - no I prefer "Aquarian". Aquarian, Aquarian, the sound of it. It's so feminine, sexy and... wet.
You may have detected from my other postings that I have a very high opinion of you and your helpful advice. You have really got me excited this time. Of course, why didn't I see it myself? I should be flirting with her instead of cajoling her! After all, although I say so myself, I am quite good at it... and modest too ;-) SuperDave xx
BTW, I chose Aquarian because I am a true aquarian in the sense that I get much pleasure from helping people and I tend to be a bit on the mental side of life. I also am an aquarist as a hobby... I love my fishies
BTW, I chose Aquarian because I am a true aquarian in the sense that I get much pleasure from helping people and I tend to be a bit on the mental side of life. 
I also am an aquarist as a hobby... I love 