Friday nearly 4pm. I wish the clock would hurry up! I can't wait to go home. I have done very little work today anyway due to daydreaming. I think I'll go home early. I'm really hopeful that today will be the start of a new understanding between us. Have a great weekend everyone. SD
Don't write the script for the night in your head, SD. Just let whatever happens, happen. Otherwise, you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment. Have a good weekend, pal.
8:38am here in my little corner of the world! I wish you a lovely evening SuperDave and just want to remind you to enjoy her company... don't put so much pressure on yourself, not to mention your wife.
Friday 8:30pm. I guess I set myself up for a fall, hairdog. Just because I was feeling in a good mood does not mean she was. We did not go out together for various reasons such as she doesn't like going out, doesn't like pubs and doesn't want to miss her favourite soap. Instead we had a fairly heated discussion which started out OK but my dispair got the better of me and we both got cross. Children got in the way and then her soap came on TV so it is left unresolved. She is now behaving quite agressively towards me - more than I have seen her before. She said that she was dreading me coming home from work today - the complete opposite of the way I was feeling and that I had better sort my self out and get back to normal - ie. back to accepting celebacy. I'm not sure how the evening will pan out but it is not looking good at the moment. SD
Get back to normal? As Corri would probably say, time to set the boundary and stick with it. She definitely has. Sounds like she's not even willing to try.
Oh sweetie, I'm really sorry for the disappointment you are feeling. Once her soap is finished, you ought to get her attention (go for a drive together or somewhere you won't be interrupted) and ask her what is wrong. Be fully prepared to just listen... encourage her to get whatever she has in there out and try your hardest not to defend yourself... only validate what she says and take notes if you have to so that you can show her how important it is to you that her concerns are addressed. I'm not kidding! I'm completely serious. She is treating you like nothing is wrong and that you're acting strange - this is not acceptable!! By stressing to her that you need to hear what's going on inside of her, she *should* get the message that this is not simply psychobabble clouding your mind.
Sunday 7:00pm. I can hardly believe the events of this weekend. It’s as if a miracle has happened. After a disappointing Friday evening we had our baths and went to bed about 11. We got talking and apologising etc. and she said she couldn’t believe my angry attitude earlier in the evening especially since she had agreed to the weekly sex on a Friday night. I was a bit taken aback because I didn’t realise she had agreed to anything. Anyhow after a bit more talking we got close and ML and it was the best we have had for years! I know that she enjoyed it too and I’m sure that if we can make it a routine it will no longer be such a big deal for her. It has certainly brought her benefits because I have been a changed man this weekend and full of enthusiasm. I have done masses of jobs around the house that I could not be bothered to do before and I can’t wait for next Friday!!!!!
