OK. We were both 100% involved before the S. I had expectations she would remain that way. Do I need to do a better job of keeping her up to date? Is that my job?
For example, both boys played on a competetive travel basketball team last year. We traveled to a lot of schools. Some as far as an hour away. I took the schedule and entered the addresses into the GPS system. I looked it up on mapquest the day before, just to be sure I knew where we were going. I talked with other parents that had done the traveling. saturday WAW tm me asking me where the gym was for S13 morning game. I chose not to respond. It was 12 minutes away and we had been there. I guess I thought that she should stand on her own 2 feet. I looked at it like it would be me asking her to come bake a batch of cookies for me. Thats was HER forte. After that game I offered to take her to the next game, an hour and a half away. She declined. As we approached the next school we ran into an unexpected detour. I successfully navigated it. She called me. I talked her through the detour.
Keep in mind, this is the same woman that was at a distant relatives funeral with the boys. Planned on spending 6 hours there. the boys didnt want to be there so she called OM to come get them and he had them alone for 6 hours. I was sitting at home. This was 1 day after she introduced them to OM. 1 Week after moving out. If I do as was done to me I would let her fall on her face. If I do as I would do for a neighbor I would answer her questions but not offer the informtion out if not asked.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15