me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
I admire your strength and your resolve to move forward for you. That is a fine example for us to follow. Hang in there!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I lied in my last post. I do want to R with BF, but I was aware what my actions would do and know that now that will not happen. I am okay with that and the bed I made with BF by doing it, if it means someone else can be saved.
I hope she tries to work on her M. I know her H; not well but we run in the same circles. He has some issues with mental illness (bi-polar?) but loves her deeply and IC and MC could save their family. They have a D7, I believe.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
[s][/s]OW responded to my message. She was very polite and understanding. We had a long talk. She was very glad I informed her of what I did. She stated more than once she felt I was a good person and she was sorry, and said if she had known how invested in BF (even though he claimed we had been nothing more than roommates for a while) I was she wouldn't have started with him.
She claims she did not leave her H for BF, that she left him in January of her own accord, and filed for D after BF left me.
The things she told me about them were shocking and ten times worse than I thought my sitch was, as far as BF's bullcrap and how long they'd been at this and what he'd told her. Apparently he moved her right in as soon as I moved out, despite his "we're screwing but not in a relationship" speech. He did a lot of lying, to both of us, it seems. She said that, while clearly he has a negative pattern of issues and she's heartbroken to be a part of it, They're "knee deep" in buying a house together and her D7 adores him, so she's going to "take it one day at a time with her eyes open" and see what occurs.
Okay. Enjoy that. You're a big girl and now you know what he's capable of.
And thus begins my attempts to heal and recuperate. I feel a million things at once right now and I'm numb, sort of. I'm assuming he won't contact me again, now that she'll be chewing him a new anus. Staying dark won't be an issue going forward. *sarcastic LOL*
Mostly I'm wondering why I still love him and why I know I'd take him back if he were ever 100% done with OW and wanted to reconcile.
C'est la vie, and la vie [censored] sometimes.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Ha, apparently I already partially explained in my last post. Sorry. Head is reeling.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Fog today. Deep fog. Half okay, half dead. Healing is on my agenda. I can do this.
Had horrible dreams last night, slept like crap. But I can do this.
Off to work.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
