Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy Need help. Jefe's always confused. Pt 6

Find another counselor.

Therapy is not like a marriage. You do not "work things out" with your therapist.

If you and your therapist are not able to communicate in a way that makes YOU feel heard, validated and safe then you must another therapist. This is crucial to your therapy.

Your counselor will understand. This is one of the things your counselor is trained in.

Help.

My wife just sent me an email about Detente Mediation.

So? Leave it alone.

What did I tell you about randomness?

Don't let things you can't control drive you nuts. Breathe.

And mediation is a process where both people are heard in an attempt to resolve something. You don't even know what the topic is, correct?

Hope, I left it alone. Is it so random if this the direction she's moving?



Correct, Zew.

I don't know and neither do you.

So what do you do when you don't know the answer?

Nothing.

Correct. But if she tries to engage you in a discussion you deflect while trying to get information.

You do not have a discussion until you know why you are having a discussion.

We did some interesting stuff on the drama triangle at the infidelity group I go to. I'm busy working today, but I'll look out my notes and post some stuff on it.

Jefe, good advice from others about not reacting to the mediation thing from your W. Good for you not to get blown all around by it - that one could have started another big text exchange or worse. Your W is blowing here, there and everywhere. But it can be your choice not to chase around in mayhem with her...

Have a good day! Toots

I guess it is 7:00 am across the pond, isn't it.

Thank you, Toots.