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All becomes clear .

S just called me . Got a text from mum saying she has been seeing OM for last few weeks and she is getting her own place but not with OM and would like to meet to explain every thing to him.

Explains her lack of contact .

Problem is W is aware that kids want nothing to do with her if she is with OM.
So gonna have to be prepared for the kids going through hell again for like the 3rd time .

South,

Whether she gets her own place or lives with OM is irrelevant. You sit there horrified, shocked and surprised at her every on of her actions. This is what cheating, WAWs or WAHs do: they act selfishly, they hurt people, they break families apart. My ex would bring the OM to our home to meet my children when I was away at work. This is what they do. Get used to it.

South -- things can get much worse than they are now. They will if you don't take action to protect your kids. Compared to some of the other people on these boards, your situation is relatively cut and dry. You have a tactical advantage of your wife moving out and offering you the family home. Imagine your wife seeing the OM while living with you and her asking you to leave the house so she can raise the kids with the OM. Lot's of people have had to face that on these boards. I've seen guys on these boards lose their wife, children and home to the OM. I have a good friend who only sees his children during the summers because his wife raises his children with the OM in another state. So however bad your situation is -- and I hate to say this -- you have it easier than many.

She is going to have to navigate her own relationship with your kids, mostly the 18 yr old now.

You job is to protect them as much as you can, especially your 12 yr old girl. You do that by giving them a stable home with the sane parent.

Your wife is showing them "crazy". Now you show them what sane looks like.

Get full possession of the house, go see a lawyer.

Have I said this enough times?

Theoden

Hi South

how are you doing mate?

Hope your ok South ?

Yeah I'm ok guys

Starting to get used to life with just me and the kids .
Think it really set in W isn't coming home any time soon .
So got to concentrate on the kids and myself .
Son really unhappy and that's my main priority at the moment .

Hi South

You've probably seen from my posts Im feeling much the same way, S is only with me sometimes in my case though. If you're in the same mindset it comes and goes normally when you're missing the small things or just company. Not sure on the best advice to give as Im still finding my way at the moment apart from saying just focus on you and the kids, without derailing your thread my S told me the other day whenever he's honest with his mum she just says thats come straight from my mouth so, as per Sandi's rules theres no logic going on just anything that endangers the correctness of her (my W I mean here) decision must be my doing regardless of how b@t chit crazy that thought is!

Hang in there mate.

Hey South, you haven't posted for a while how's it going, are you all ok?

Let us know mate so we know you're doing ok

Edz

Bumpety Bump... South, you ok?

Hi South,

not sure if you're still visiting the boards or just concentrating on life with the kids which I can understand.

Just wanted to check in and say I hope you're all doing ok and remember we're here if you want to check in and chat.

Cheers

Edz

Hi Edz ,

Been busy greeting ready for Xmas .

Went to watch war of the worlds which was amazing . Although my daughter wasn't so sure lol.

I've been working hard on myself and really looking forward to being happy again .

South