Monogamy is now impossible with this marriage. Even if I left, filed for D, etc. and it "shocked" her into ending her As, given the history I would spend the rest of my days wondering if she started again. So either I get out, give it some time to see if we can rebuild something that makes her WANT to stop going outside the marriage, or I live a marriage that is kind, pleasant and nice, but hollow.
Don't know what I want and I am not going to start acting before I am damn sure what outcome I am driving for. I made the mistake of acting on emotion before and will not do it again.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
