dgb -- maybe instead of imagining the butterflies that your H might be feeling toward someone else, imagine your own butterflies when you meet that next person in your life, whether it's a new and improved version of your current H or a whole new person. Something to look forward to. I, for one, am excited to think that I might have another chance at a "first kiss" with someone new, if my M doesn't pan out. Look hard for those positives and silver linings, and focus on yourself, not H.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
I will start thinking like you suggested! Thank you!
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
In addition to the mental turmoil, I am having physical symptoms also. Does anyone else get the icy/hot flashes when horrible thoughts enter your mind?
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Yes and the need for fresh air when I feel I can't breathe. It's does get better with more ups than downs . Patience of a saint is what is needed
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
I get this too. Also a panic where my arms actually start going numb like the blood is leaving my extremities - very strange feeling. It does get better with time - or maybe just gotten used to it and more prepared for it.
And the daily punch in the gut - ouch.
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015
Yup, lots of physical pain to go alone with the mental pain. I tend to feel it in my chest. GALing helps to get my mind off of things. Sometimes at work at actually go 10-15 min without thinking about it, which is nice. I know with time it will get easier. We all know plenty of people who are D and very happy. They all find love again.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
i occasionally wake up from a dead sleep in an extreme panic. almost to the point that I feel like I'm going to puke. not fun. I usually quickly try to do something to keep busy and reduce energy. it's not easy to overcome. it has gotten much less frequent, but still happens at times. I"m learning to make it subside with breathing and positive thinking as well. not sure if it actually works, but it seems to psychologically....i was recommended an herb called kava root .... i take it every day and seems like if i go without it for a couple days, I have anxiety issues. just passing a suggestion - not prescribing
good luck! i'm still new so don't take what I say TOO seriously
me-42 w-33 d-3 together-6 m-4yr 6/1/14-w check out 6/15/14-EA? 8/1/14-mc 9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing 9/15/14-w suggest separation 10/17/14 wife is done 12/13/2014 - wife move out me file 1/1/15
