H left his Cellphone home again today! I'm sure he's going through withdrawl's from the cellphone, let alone whatever else he's going through.
We went out for pizza with S last night. I brought up the movie The Passion and asked H if he had heard anything about it. He said just that people were talking about it. I said I was going to go with my SIL. H said why are you going with her, don't you want to go with me? OMG people, my H hasn't ASKED ME to do anything with hime since, since, since...well I don't even remember!! He then brought up another movie he'd like to see and I said I'd like to see that too!!
H was very nice last night. Said "thank you" for something I handed to him. Asked me how I could eat so much and not gain weight...in H's way this was a compliment.
S4 is bugging H to take him icefishing tomorrow. It's supposed to be warm here and H isn't sure how the ice will be and if they can go. After S had gone to bed, when I was putting cream on my H's back, I asked H if they were going icefishing on Saturday? He said I don't know, do you want to come with us?! I said I was thinking I would liek to come along.
He ASKED me to go to a movie with him and he invited me icefishing. This is huge!
Quote: I did yell to Satan to leave my H alone, to get out of his life
I am sitting here in my office reading through some of the threads and something just sparked me to say out loud the very same thing. I told satan that he was a weasle and was not welcome in my life or my H's at all. Then I silently asked God to take over my H's heart and thanked him for the blessings. The strangest feeling came over me. My skin is all tingly and almost like the air changed in my office.
Yours is the very next thread I go to and read your words about you yelling at satan.
I recommend anyone that has the time to read this thread. It's my MgoBlue on "Life's Journey and the Lesson's of life." There is some great stuff here!
I was going to post one of his posts, but thought it better to direct people to the whole thread!!
This book has been mentioned here by other DBers, "The Power of Now" I would recommend this book to everyone here! It'll give you a whole new outlook on life, our "pain body."
If anyone here has read the book and wants to second the above please do so. It's so hard to explain the book, but it's sinking in with me. I also have the tapes.
Not much happening. Friday night we went out to eat, Saturday H ended up having to work. Since I'm behind at work I also went in for a few hours.
H and SS went to a fishing show Saturday afternoon. Three of my four brothers were there with two of my nephews. H said he was looking at some boats and they snuck up behind him and approached H first! I think this made my H feel good as he hasn't really talked to any of them since a year ago! H thinks they don't "like" him anymore.
The thing is my family is soooo forgiving, we are all alike, we don't hold grudges, we get over things and we try not to take life too seriously. Life's too short, laugh a lot. I KNOW they didn't like that H took up with an OW and moved out on us, but I think they respected the fact that it is MY life.
We watched a movie last night and H, SS and S4 went ice fishing bright and early this morning (no room in the truck for me). S4 is such a chatterbox, he's a godsend! For all his wildness he has this loving, huggging personality that I hope he never loses. S4 will say to me "mom I have to give you something" and I'll say "what?" and he'll come over and say "this" give me a great big hug and,kiss and an I Love You!
I see good thing happening in my H's life, but I don't know if he sees them the same way a I do. H likes to claim that he doesn't have any friends here, but he has lots of friends. The jobsite where my H is at now, it's huge, it'll be a five year job if not longer. And all of his "work buddies" will be at the same jobsite. The guys he's hunted with, fished with and spent time with and yes they're all drinkers...argghhh. Construction pays well around here, but I don't know how fulfilling it is. Usually everybody's spread out at different jobsites, now they will all be together. So hopefully H will be able to find a little more happiness with his job. H likes to keep busy and he is busy. If he's not busy H has too much time to think!!
I've been reading the "Power of a Praying Wife" and finding lots of good things in there. Even in THIS book it talks about and the importance of to a man and the way he feels and the importance in marriage! I do notice that after a night of H is more caring, thoughtful and loving. This is his #1 LL.
I am praying for my H and for us in a way I never thought possible. I believe anything can happen with prayer and by connecting with the Higher Power, the Lord which I do throughout the day. I haven't had a chance to do any bible reading and to think I was brought up with the bible, church everyday. I have ordered the book "Mary, Called Magdelene" by Margaret George am looking forward to reading it.
I haven't read the thread you recommended yet, but the quote -
Quote: The friendship failed and only duty remained. Duty does not make a marriage.
caught my eye.
I can see what it is saying, but I feel the duty always remains, and since it does, it is also our duty to find that friendship again, seeing as it was there in the first place!
I don't thing that walking out of a marriage without even ONCE discussing this lack of friendship, the feeling of pain etc etc on the part of the WAS is playing fair, or very mature AT ALL.
It is the fact that my H gets to call ALL the shots right now that is also very painful -
HE feels pain, HE decides to walk, HE takes up with my friend, HE feels pain when friend dumps him, HE says we can't get back together although we are "best friends", HE decides to start with new woman, HE decides that our D will be fine through all this, etc etc..
I get fed up with this self centredness.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Wow, things sound so good for you right now. I'm so very happy for you!!!
Yes, "The Praying Wife" is a wonderful book. I will always be grateful to my SIL for giving it to me this past Christmas.
Quote: THIS book it talks about and the importance of to a man and the way he feels and the importance in marriage! I do notice that after a night of H is more caring, thoughtful and loving. This is his #1 LL.
This is also very important to my H and was one of our problems. The book is right about what it says.
Quote: I am praying for my H and for us in a way I never thought possible. I believe anything can happen with prayer and by connecting with the Higher Power, the Lord which I do throughout the day.
I attribute this to the fact that I'm feeling more at peace these days. I'm glad you are to and have been for some time.
Quote: mom I have to give you something" and I'll say "what?" and he'll come over and say "this" give me a great big hug and,kiss and an I Love You!
Oh, I love him! Please give him a kiss for me. I've never met him but I just love him!
How long has your H been "gone" with OW? Too lazy to go back and look at your sitch that and the fact that my computer is sooo slow at home.
Quote: It is the fact that my H gets to call ALL the shots right now that is also very painful -
HE feels pain, HE decides to walk, HE takes up with my friend, HE feels pain when friend dumps him, HE says we can't get back together although we are "best friends", HE decides to start with new woman, HE decides that our D will be fine through all this, etc etc..
I get fed up with this self centredness.
Your H isn't thinking right now, not thinking of anything but himself. Don't expect to this to change anytime soon. I know it does get tiring. Has your H always been a "me" kind of guy? Mine has, so it wasn't surprising. I don't expect this to change too much.
I once thanked my H for what I've been through, it made be a stronger, better person. I am thankful that I did have the chance to grow and become a better person. That the me that got lost so many years ago is back and HAPPY! I will not go back to being that person.
It helps to get to the point where you know you'll be fine either way and that our kids will be okay, to. They have to be and we have to be the one there for them through all of this madness. Cathy
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