Yeah, I'm very much not pushing. Anything. I love having my friend back and working together on parenting. Love stuff will come gradually. She has to get there again.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
On a bad note, my knee is throbbing and I'm unsure when I'll be able to work out next. I have no idea what I did to it. Hurts like crazy right at the top of the knee cap, especially if I use my quad muscles much. Which is super when I go up or down the stairs. Pain pain go away.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Kind of a blah week. My knee has kept me from working out and my energy levels are down as a result.
All things M are kind of stagnant right now. I'm worried that, due to lack of positive movement, she's going to drop the bomb again. Maybe it's just that I'm gimpy this week and she's having a rough week at work.
I feel like I need a breakthrough.
Ok, end of whining, back to being patient and strong. I will be ok, no, not ok, great. I will be great.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Undrop...not in so many words. But yeah, the whole divorce idea hadn't been spoken of in quite some time. But it's been complicated.
Today WAS going great. Lots of friendly talking. She even had me come in the bathroom and talk to her while she showered to go out for her friend's bday.
She even came back super happy and friendly and we were chatting all friendly for a while. Then she suddenly shifted gears and started talking about my rebound EA again, so things turned sour. I did my best to validate her anger and diffuse things.
I guess I knew this was coming, I'd just hoped to avoid it.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Joe just found your post in a somewhat similar stitch. Doing the same thing putting my family back together and wondering when I can start piecing my R back together. Wondering if any of this is working and trying to put meaning to every and all actions. I'm cheering you on good luck.
Hi Joe, I agree with Elsa. When she starts to feel closer to you is when the anger issues might surface. Validating is the best you can do and just continue your PMA.
Glad to hear things are going well for you! Hugs, Lisa
Undrop...not in so many words. But yeah, the whole divorce idea hadn't been spoken of in quite some time. But it's been complicated.
Today WAS going great. Lots of friendly talking. She even had me come in the bathroom and talk to her while she showered to go out for her friend's bday.
She even came back super happy and friendly and we were chatting all friendly for a while. Then she suddenly shifted gears and started talking about my rebound EA again, so things turned sour. I did my best to validate her anger and diffuse things.
I guess I knew this was coming, I'd just hoped to avoid it.
So you really don't know where this is going. If you are actually coming back together there's a need to sort things out, talk about going forward. A good R can't be built on the crumbled foundation of the old one. It'll be the same R, most likely even worse.
Do you feel you're walking on eggshells because of her anger?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
