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You're going to live in a bubble?

I wish you well.

My wife asked me the same thing months ago.

I can't see myself in another relationship again.

I'm sure I will be in another relationship someday but this is not something I ponder.

Seems like you have it all figured out.

What will the title of your book be?

"Divorce is stressful - the guide to getting out without having to do or learn anything"

Good luck.

I think divorce is quite stressful.

It's made me physically ill.

I thought I was a good husband but I have learned I was not.

I always tried my best. But now I know I failed.

It was not for lack of trying. I used every skill I had and my failure will always haunt me. I let my wife down. I always said I would not but I did - this is where I failed.

I tried everything I knew.

I never had an affair and I hung in even when I felt the marriage was broken. I may not have had the right tools or abilities but it was not lack of trying.

The hurt and pain I caused my wife I know I will never fully understand but I will always know I caused it and this is a shame I will carry.

I know my wife and I have differences on various issues but I can safely say neither of us wanted to cause each other hurt or pain.

My wife is not evil.

I think she is angry. She yells. I hate yelling.

But I know she does not want me to be in pain.

I never wanted to contribute to my wife's hurt and pain Again, I recognize I caused her hurt and pain but that was never my goal or intent.

I do not plan to go through this again with someone else if we divorce.

sweep up the mess, develop more/new skills for your next R, get more tools for your tool box so you can do more.

you can do more for yourself. (nothing worth having is easy)