Things are gradually shifting for the better. We're not to piecing yet, but we're friendly, we're parenting together, and she doesn't mention divorce or moving out anymore. So that's a plus.
Damage control is mostly done, now I'm trying to get the spark back.
I know the road will be rocky, but I'm standing tall.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
And on that note, she was a total crab tonight. To be fair, I think she was just exhausted from the week. On the good side, as grumpy as she was, there wasn't really D talk.
Also, I didn't let it get me down. I'm getting stronger.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
And the fact that's she's a pissy that took the kids. She hates my faugit bmily. Of course this wedding involves my whole family.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Wow. Sorry about the really bad typing. I was super tired.
I meant that she was pissy that I took the kids to the wedding. She hates my family and it was a family wedding, so she wasn't being really happy about that.
Aside from that I was grumbling about how sad being at a wedding made me.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
I have to admit i have little patience for people who are immature. You took your kids to a family wedding and your wife is pissy because she doesn't like your family? Could that BE more immature? It's a FAMILY wedding. Get a grip, woman.
On the other hand, I understand how a wedding can be an un-fun experience for you (or any of us in our situations). I'm convinced the bar is usually for those with struggling marriages.
Yes, the bar woulda been great...save for the 3 and 5 year-old I was responsible for. 3 drinks in 3 1/2 hours. Not getting the job done. Sigh.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Oh yeah, they had fun. Not as much w/ me, but they had fun. I did dance w/ my daughter tho. It's the only dancing I did. I love dancing w/ her.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Things have been good. Work started. I've been keeping up w/ working out.
We met to drop off my son on his first day of Kindergarten. I brought her a bouquet of roses as a "happy first day of kindergarten" present for my W. They were very well received.
We've been gradually acting more like we're married again. I certainly feel like I have my friend back. There hasn't been any affection or definitive R talk, so I'm nowhere near declaring us to be "piecing" yet.
Being patient and trying to not scare her off.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
