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YES!!! I AM ON THE LEDGE AND THERE IS NO WINE IN THE HOUSE!!!!

I just want to tell him that I am not up to hearing bad stuff right now.
I'm just NOT.

I don't know if he sees I'm vulnerable and figures this is a good time to lay it on me.

Grrrrrrr......



Talk away.

I'm bordering on a panic attack here. Seriously.
Not a good ending to a good week.

This is when the Gods punish you for being too cocky....

--GGG

^^ not true at all. God is all Love.

Your stinkin' thinkin' is causing you to spin and you are trying to control your anxiety by outlining to GUBU what he can/can't do. Do you see that at all?

It could be that GUBU just wanted to talk about your health. Nothing about divorce or any of that stuff.

I think it is good that GUBU wants to talk with you. I seriously doubt it is R talk. A part of me suspects that he's concerned about your health for he sure does notice your weight loss.

And---this is when we need a "LIVE CHAT" function!

GGG, keep reading Wonka's posts to you. I'm in a bit of a dark spot, too... But neither one of us will benefit by spinning our wheels.

Let's both find ways to get calm and centered tonight, ok? I will if you will.

What are your favorite ways to de-compress? I could use some new ideas....

Maybe...maybe not.

It's the way he said "EXPECT to talk tomorrow."

Like another order from the boss.

It feels like once again he is telling me what to do.

Is it telling him what to do when I just say "I don't want to discuss that with you right now?"

---GGG

You're definitely spinning, my dear friend.

What's wrong with this general response?

You can simply say, "Sure...thanks for letting me know. It would be helpful to let me know ahead what it is that you wish to talk about tomorrow."

So, I heard wine?

What was another one...?

Ok..Ok....

Half the things I've worried about never happened.

And the things I did worry about the most never came to pass.

For example, I never worried about my husband cheating on me, for one thing.

I'm breathing.

You're probably right.

He doesn't come across well in writing.

But that angry, pushy text stuff.

That was so weird and I was prepared to ignore it, until it seems now HE is demanding to talk.
That's what's making me nervous, I guess.

Ugh.

My opinion on that? I oppose it for the following reason:

It has the potential of leading DBers down some treacherous roads. Not good idea.

Thanks, Wonka.

I will use that. I'm going to sit on it a bit though.

But honestly, if he says--even in writing--that we need to move this D forward, or anything about what HE wants next that is going to be hurtful to me... I am not in a place to even read that right now.

So I want to tell him to hold that thought, not forever, but for awhile.

---GGG

And yes. WINE! Would be GOOD!
A good Pinot Noir...