Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART III

Thank you Heart! You know Thorn, there is a part of me that senses that. The one sentence that stands out most to me is when she said part of her wants to go back. That right there is all I really need to know to confirm she is uncertain. There is just nothing more I can do. She just will not budge on this. All I can do is go along with her. She is definitely hurting...she came out and said that. She said she still loves me a couple times too but I am not sure if that's still friend love or husband love.

There's still a couple days left and maybe, just maybe, she will change her mind but it hurts me too much to hope for that and it hurts my PMA and my GAL that I am currently practicing. I just wish she would stop thinking of it as going "back" instead of going what it would be...going forward. I even told her that anything that we have going forward would have to be brand new, that we still would have our history, but a new relationship would have to be created practicing all the things we've learned from this ordeal...that we've both learned from the many mistakes we made. I don't know what the next couple of days will bring and perhaps I won't hear from her again in time before Thursday. All I can do is hope she is still pondering all that we talked about yesterday.

This is just so damned sad and tragic. I am so emotionally exhausted and worn out, I have tried everything and it seems like my GAL has backfired more than it has helped me. I guess mine is a rare sitch where the GAL created more problems than solutions.

Thanks for the kind words guys, I will certainly keep you posted.

Well folks, in less than 24 hours from now, unless something changes between now and then with WAW, I will be divorced. Sad times.

Chin up. You'll be okay.

And your GAL hasn't backfired. I might be working better than you know.

Thanks Drew but I don't see how that's possible since the divorce is going to happen now. Tomorrow will be the hardest day of my life.

Easier said than done, but as sad as you may feel, try not to let your W see it. Who knows- maybe W sees your PMA and it finally hits her what she's losing? I don't recall the stats, but I've seen how many M couples end up D, then re-M and it surprised me how high it was.

Oh Tarheel, I have been VERY good at hiding my pain from her and only showing my GAL etc. That's why she says things to me as she does about how I haven't skipped a beat since she left...how she gets upset I am doing things I would never do with her, etc. So in that respect the GAL worked but it didn't change anything. She is convinced we need to go forward alone. So I will have to go in there tomorrow morning and be cool as a cucumber and get through it and wait until I'm in the car to break down. I'm sure I can pull it off this one last time.

IH, it's not more than a signature on a piece of paper.

It doesn't erase your history with W or change anything except for legal reasons.

Once my ExW and I divorced, I thought it was completely and totally over. 2 months later, she is crazy obsessed with me and chasing me. Begging me for another chance. Sending me nude texts to try and entice me.

A piece of paper means nothing. Your W is VERY conflicted, this is so far from over, IH.

Read my tagline.

Thank Thorn and Drew. That's amazing Thorn that your ex made such a turnaround after your official divorce. I can't even picture my WAW doing such a thing but then again I couldn't picture her ever divorcing me a few months back either but here we are so...so I suppose anything is possible. I am now less than two hours away from being in court. I will be strong and won't let WAW see me upset. I will be cordial, friendly, and I will wish her the best. Then I guess that'll be that...at least for now. I will let you all know how things go this morning.

Hang in there, IH.

This too shall pass.