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This will probably seem strange, but I think I get how the "other side" feels. It's like the tables have turned. H's actions this past week have kind of irritated me.

I don't want him to send me flowers or cute texts or tell me he wants to move back home and I especially don't want to hear him say he misses me, because I feel like I have to say the same thing back and I don't miss him. I don't know how to reply to that.

I'm tired of the drama and the empty promises and the lies and the deception and the secrecy and the attempts to manipulate me. I just want H to leave me alone.

It's kind of odd to feel that way, but after a year of a meaningless M that I don't derive any real personal benefit from, it's strangely liberating.

Maybe Sandi2 can chime in on that. Is this what they feel?

I've read Labug's thread most of the way through and she seemed to have been a little wary too. Her H was gone two years and she'd made her life something she liked. Though she missed him when they began reconciling it was more about making time to have fun together (see her Dating thread) than throwing down the heavy romantic gestures.

For my H and I to reconcile, we'll have to first experience again the parts of one another that brought us close. Dating, chats,having fun, learning to trust (also tons of counseling). If he started showering me with flowers and stuff I'd say he was getting ahead of himself a lot.

It really doesn't matter what "they" feel though. Just what you feel.