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I don't know, Dawgy.

It sounds to me like you'd welcome their companionship. You've said so, here.

Tread very, very carefully. What you have consciously decided to do and subconsciously how you are interacting with women are not on the same page, it would seem.

I have talked to female friends - they do offer some insight to the female mind. Though I'm finding that nobody's opinion really matters except my own and my wife's if we are going to get through this.

But when you say "I'm attracted to her" it raises a flag.

I dont want to welcome a new woman into my life but it getting continuously harder to accept what she has done to me and has continued to do . I accept a portion of the responsibility for the marriage problems but in no way will I accept any for the affair . She could have done things so much differently .

Maybe Im not cut out for taking this any furhter . Its been 8 months of pure torture and now I m starting to see there s life after wife . I havent had relations with another woman although there has been ample opportunity to do so . I find detachment has defintely helped me but put me in positions to make me notice another life away from her .

What is the point of staying with her ? Really , do we ever trust them again ? really ? I do love her thats no question but just because you love someone it doesnt me you have to be with them . I hope she comes around soon Or I believe my detachment is going to lead me to another life .