Cadet thanks. Everyone is right that I need to just let this go. Stop resisting and just give him what he wants. This whole MLC process makes you spin out of control so you try to grasp onto anything you can to slow it down, make it somewhat tolerable and at your pace. But this is out of my control. He has made the decision and I can do nothing about it.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
Just remember to keep the business part separate from the emotional. You could get divorced and he still might come around later. But as crazy as he is right now, being financially protected in a divorce may be a good idea anyway.
I hear you kml I'm just concerned that because this divorce will be costly and complicated, things may get twisted against me easily and then there will be more anger and rage against me that he will not seperate. He's such a prideful person and so worried about what others think that once it gets out I think we will have no chance of ever fixing things.
That's the other thing so do we allow the MLCer to blame us for the divorce to others (like my H already has) and keep quiet about the A and what they're really doing or are we honest with people. We are somewhat known to many and this will be a shock to all as we were the "perfect family". If I am honest and say what's happening (even with taking blame for my parts) he will go nuts.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
