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Tell me about it. I'm already nervous and I haven't even committed to it yet.

No better time to face your fears than now, right? Talk about a 180!

Im not gonna lie it sounds like fun, but I think I would turn into an 8 year old girl when it came time to jump. And yeah that would be a 180 for sure. If you do it I might have to check it out myself. I dunno it depends on your explanation of the experience lol.

Haha! In that case, I'll just tell you it was a piece of cake.

Hmmm... what about learning to Scuba dive? That sounds pretty cool too.

That is something that I have always wanted to do, scuba diving would be a huge interest for me. Way more exciting to me than skydiving. I love snorkeling but there is only so much you can do with that.

Just looked it up at the local dive center here. It will cost 454.95 to become "open water certified" That doesnt sound horrible to me. It makes me really want to do it with my W though as I know she will be upset when she comes back and Ive already done the first course without her. I know I should just do it anyway...ARGH!!!

I'm going to look into it too. I can just imagine getting a text from WAW.

W: So what have you been up to?
M: Oh just skydiving, scuba diving shipwrecks, going on caving expeditions, salsa dancing, climbing mountains. You?
W: Ummmmm...

Hahaha!

Yeah that would be really something. My W thinks Im boring a bit so maybe I should do this without her. She can always take the first class by herself. Looks to only take about a month.

Find a rebound girl! Hah, Ill get blasted for that one as I was scolded for my penchant for doing just that. It is wrong on so many levels, but it does rebuild your self esteem in a hurry after a break up

Seriously though. I know exactly what you are going through. When my W gave me the BD speech, I was in a relatively new town and had no close friends. She was going out 4 nights a week and had a super active social life. And I am normally the social one between the two of us. So it does amplify the loneliness feeling something fierce. Moving back to my hometown I grew up in where I have countless friends was a Godsend for my sanity and really helped with my PMA/GAL/NC

Chin up buddy. The calm is coming soon for you...

Then change that. DB101, if something isn't working, then change it..



What is the cause of this ?

Hint ?






Then take it back...for YOU

It has nothing to do with you being "worthy" of being loved. It isn't about having another person always validating your "worthiness". It IS about you self-validating, and knowing that you are CAPABLE of loving, and SHOWING that, REGARDLESS if you are receiving it.

It isn't Tit-fot-Tat here. You will learn that giving your love is about your choices, and not just what you can get in return for giving it. THAT is what un-conditional (or almost unconditional) love is about. Loving another person when they often do not give it back.

Example...

Do you love your Daughter ??

Is it because of the things that she does, or gives to you ??

Or is it because of the things that you do, and give to her ??





Hmmm....

You sound, wonderfully....convenient there.

Good job, good credit score, faithful....

And I'm not knocking you,


yet...

Would that be your best pick up line in the future ???

And Spartan knows how I feel about the word "deserve"...

We deserve what we have earned, and worked toward. Nothing in life should be handed to us, and while I understand what you meant ???

I just don't think that we can just automatically "deserve" anything.....




Now we are getting somewhere, and you have things that you recognize about yourself that you can show externally..

What is your plan for thought stopping ???

Oh, and how about those Lottery numbers ???

No rebounds for me! I did that once after divorcing my ex. I brought the same problems I had in the marriage into the new relationship.

I fell hard for the rebound too! She was opposite of my ex and I thought I had won the lottery. Sexy, smart, and family oriented.

Wasn't long before some of the same issues from my marriage appeared in my relationship with the rebound. I hadn't fixed myself.