No. I didn't think she could see my Facebook anyway. I wasn't looking for a reaction I was expressing myself. Why are both of y'll on my case when she calls me a c**k sucker after I told her I'd cover her for 2 months?
Also she wanted me to sign for continuance which I will not do because that's another month of support I'd have to pay. She just wants to drag this out and take more of my money she didn't earn. She's gonna go home broke and that's fine with me, her free ride is over and she knows it and its not this guys problem anymore.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
It just sounded really jerky IMO. Not saying it isnt something that I wouldnt have done in the past or havent done. But I did it for the effect.
Maybe she isnt just after another free month. I would think that its possible she might not be 100% sure. I would take any advantage I could for more time right now. Is the possibility of saving your M worth it?
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
We're not even facebook friends, I had zero idea she could even see it. I don't know what she's thinking, but from what I have heard so far she seems fairly confident she wants a D.
Honestly, I don't want this M anymore.
The end all - be all is when she leaves (Aug 4 to go school in VA) I get MY jeep commander back that she is driving right now and trade that in for a wrangler.
That is the point of no return for me.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
If after discussing your divorce she sees that you're happy about it, it's going to make her think you don't care at all. I didn't read your first thread, but I saw your post about not getting into arguments. Maybe she thought you wanted to not be married to her. Maybe she only brought up the divorce to see if you cared about her at all. It seems like you've given up. Only 4 months in.
I know this website is all about not pursuing the WAW, but if you never really pursued, or really expressed your feelings, or showed her love, now might be the time. At the very least don't go out and throw a party celebrating that she's gone.
If after discussing your divorce she sees that you're happy about it, it's going to make her think you don't care at all. I didn't read your first thread, but I saw your post about not getting into arguments. Maybe she thought you wanted to not be married to her. Maybe she only brought up the divorce to see if you cared about her at all. It seems like you've given up. Only 4 months in.
I know this website is all about not pursuing the WAW, but if you never really pursued, or really expressed your feelings, or showed her love, now might be the time. At the very least don't go out and throw a party celebrating that she's gone.
So, the question is... what do you want?
Honestly, after detaching I really don't know what I want. She is not "joking" about getting a D. Whether she really knows what a D is remains to be seen. I've tried the pursuit - talks about M/R, going on dates, etc... failed. Pursuit via my own experience does not work. To separate expressing my feelings and show her love from pursuing her I think is just about impossible.
I don't plan to intentionally or unintentionally throw the D in her face. She is already convinced my facebook comment was about her and I did send her a low pressure text which didn't aid my cause.
If somehow this whole D is her way of reaching out for help, that is completely the wrong way to go. She can blame herself for that when this is over.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
This was all before. I have had no explicit "reaching out" or "pursuit" of any kind since the 20th. The only significant event was when we had a sit down to discuss finances and I only had one minor slip up. From that day she has sent 4 texts and I only returned with one.
Detaching has been going well so far. As recng asked, I am not sure currently if I even want to reestablish a M/R with my W at the moment.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
Update: We have a mutual friend work it out so I go to my apartment and talk to W. She's drinking and gets emotional and we talk over many issues we have. She asks me to stay the night and I do. We end up having sex that she initiates at each step. She usually gets sore after a while so I end the session somewhat early. In addition she told me she just got off her period and that she's not wearing protection. After we finish she compares it to our last time which was the "best ever" and ends up leaving the bed to sleep on the couch. She felt at this point I saw her as an object, not a person.
She sends me a long text later more or less blaming some problems on me and says she wanted our love making to "make me want to be with her as much as she wants to be with me".
Since then she has also said she thinks we should never see each other again.
I think buyer's remorse, she had abnormal sexual expectations, maybe breakup sex.... I have no idea. Things were great up till after love making. Ideas guys?
And I think in my case LRT is not appropriate based on multiple factors
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
