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I'm just looking at what's going on now. You try to deal with your anger on your own and it hasn't worked. And I see you coming up with more excuses than actually trying it out. But that's up to you.

This is not accurate. If you've read all my posts then you'd see I have had success. Anger management does not mean that you will not experience anger, it means first and foremost that you will not use it as an excuse to act out hurtfully. I have not done something hurtful to my H in anger in the past month since I have begun focusing more on this. I am not sure where you are getting that it's not working.

Are you religious?
I have been abandoned 7 weeks, I meditate and pray everyday.
I wrote this for for me, not him:

Today
I choose the path to Peace,
I choose the path for Forgiveness,
I choose the path for Pardon,
I choose to walk with my conscious,
I choose to walk with The Lord
for he is good.
I choose to walk in Awareness,
I choose to live today in the Present
I walk with Dignity and Grace
and most importantly, Patience.

Oh I've read your posts. And I've also seen how you backslid. Let me tell you something. I wasn't a believer in having IC either. But I was open enough to at least try. You are the type of person whom I think needs to learn from another human being face to face. And when you mess up, you need that person that you can call and meet up with who can teach you how to cope. To me, this is better than any book.

I have been to IC. It's not that I'm not open. As a matter of fact, my education is in academic research in psychology. My opinion is an informed one. There's actually good research that good self help books can be very, very effective (although that's actually not what I'm using to deal with my anger).

We must have different definitions of backsliding. As I've mentioned a few times, I have not acted out in anger in a month (since I began focusing more on this issue). That is the essence of anger management, you have the feelings, recognize and acknowledge them but don't act on them. I often post here as a form of journaling and processing and it actually helps prevent me from acting inappropriately. That as well as several trusted friends who I reach out to regularly and help balance and calm me.

P.S. Please don't take my disagreement as I don't respect your opinion. I have always appreciated your input on my threads. On this particular point I just disagree.