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WH,
It appears that the onion is starting to peel away to so that you are now becoming aware of what he's been doing and just how much his ow's family has stepped in to help him. It appears the father purchased her engagement ring as well as $12,000 to pay off his car. Wonder if that was a loan because I sure can't believe anyone would just give him that amount of money in this day and age. Why your h should go back and ask for the $3,000 to pay you what he owes. After all, it looks like Daddy Warbucks doesn't have a problem giving your h money right along.

I do think that more info will come to light as time goes on, but I certainly wouldn't back down on anything that you or your children need.

Hang in there.

Thanks, Job.

I just met with my attorney. He had a few changes to the agreement, but nothing that H should have a fit about. He may balk, but most of them are minor details but a few are major, like me being able to claim head of household status. My attorney wanted me to put something in about H taking on the shortfall should the house be put on the market and H had a bird. But I think we have found a way around that that will protect me and H has no idea it's even in the agreement. MUM'S THE WORD!!!!!

Now to discuss this with H and get this done. MAN I am so tired of this drama I could scream.

WH

So anyone know the federal law on filing Head of Household. H is trying to pull a fast one and he is mad he got called out on it. He tried to put into the agreement that we would file taxes according to IRS Publication 501 - Exemption for Dependents. My attorney said no. Either we state "respondent is allowed to claim head of household" or no language is entered in. H balked at it and tried to tell me his attorney said I was foolish for making this decision. I asked how I was foolish by following Federal IRS codes? He told me there was no such law and people do it all the time. How many times in my years with H have I heard that? I told him to take the language out regardless.

So lemme hear it peeps? Is H wrong or right??? : )

WH

Yup, STBXH is trying to pull wool over your eyes on that one.
WH, the reason for that the head of household language is so you can get a greater tax refund by claiming EITC when filing your federal taxes.

I'd leave the language as it stands and your lawyer is absolutely correct in advising you to insert it in the agreement. Your L is truly looking out for your best interests...as your children's too. Listen to your L not some loopy guy in a raspberry beret!

WH trying not to sound whiny here, but what short straw did we draw when it came to picking guys?

Even among MLCers these guys take the biscuit

He is trying to pull the wool over my eyes, but he isn't succeeding. He also refuses to put in language that states he will continue the mortgage payments even if he has to put the house up for sale. But I have recourse built in if that happens but H doesn't know it. I have learned a thing or two from these two years with my attorney.

As far as the short straw, IDK Bea. I (and everyone I associate with) thought H was a catch and a great guy. Even his own family couldn't believe how wonderful and thoughtful he was when we were together. Now he has done a complete 180.

I am still shell shocked at the guy he has become. So are the kids. I guess he is OW's b*tch now.

WH

IRS questionnaire to determine filing status

IRS rules to claim HOH

Hope these help!

Betsey

If you each are claiming one of the kids as a dependent, then you could claim head of household on any future tax filings, right? Is this just about the 2013 tax return? If so, can you show him how beneficial it is for you to claim HOH and offer to split some of the 2013 return with him?

Once you're divorced, so long as you claim one child as a dependent, you can file HOH.

My attorney said I get to claim HOH because I have the kids the
Majority of nights. For both of us to file HOH we each would have go have a child 51% of the time. Unfortunately that is not how our formula works out.

This is why H is ticked. He can't file HOH. And I am not giving it up. H tried to talk me out of it, but he can forget it.

WH

Btw this is for future tax purposes. Not 2013.

WH