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This week will be week 6 since ilybnilwy. W is seeing someone else(the person who was posting on her FB before the separation, and who I asked about and was told that I was a jealous a-hole.) Things may be getting more serious between them. W is spending lots of time with new friends, partying, etc... She has been frivolous with money, and has missed work to have fun. A friend told me that she posted on FB on friday that she wasn't feeling work so she was starting her weekend early and posted pics of her at the beach with her sister and a friend with a bottle of Vodka. OK, it was my weekend with the kids and she's entitled to pursue a good time on her time. I showed up to drop the kids off at the house on Sunday and she was putting a sticker on her jeep that was in french. She told me that the translation is "I don't give a f***" I was a little taken aback that a 36 year old woman with two kids at home would even think that much less want to display it to the world, albeit in french(seems passive aggressive to me.) I didn't say anything. I'm hoping things settle down with her soon. So, yesterday the daycare called me to say that my son was running a fever and needed to be picked up. They called her first and left a voicemail. I texted her to see if she got it and to say that I was unable to leave because I was in training. She was in the process of sending me a text when I sent mine asking me to pick him up. She said "don't worry about it, i'll take care of it, even though I can't afford to miss any more work." Now, knowing how much work she's missed for frivolous reasons and that she's put herself in a position that she can't take time off to take care of our children upsets me. Today, she asked if she could use medical savings for some prescription eyedrops for herself and that she'd pay me back later. I told her I'd scheduled a procedure for myself but wasn't sure what my out of pocket was going to be yet so I couldn't answer that right now. She said "don't worry about it, I'll figure it out or do without." Now, again, she's spent so much money frivolously that she's unable to take care of basic necessities and she's headed for some real financial troubles if things don't change. It upsets me that she lives her life willy nilly but expects me to come running whenever she expects, and becomes curt when I can't or don't. In the first case, I was unable. In the second case, I couldn't give her a direct answer at that moment. I didn't respond to her last e-mail about the medical stuff. I'm trying to have boundaries but I want to do the right thing, especially when it comes to my kids. She is an absolute flake right now. Any advice, especially from someone who has been through a similar situation is greatly appreciated. Also, does this seem like WAW syndrome or MLC? I may have contributed to the problems of the relationship but I certainly didn't make her the person she is now.