It's more to do with letting her know that I can finally see what she was going through in hindsight, now that the anger and hurt have subsided in me. I was under stress and grieving at the time this happened, then as my wife left she saw nothing but hurt and anger from me. I haven't had a clear head and heart in a while to see that.
She did try to express her feelings from that time recently, but in my brooding state I saw it as little more than justification for her actions.
I just want peace for both of us. Regardless of whether reconciliation is in our future.
I think this is among the healthiest and perhaps bravest things I've read here in awhile.
Good for you. Like you said, regardless of outcome, you want some peace for both of you.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
It's more to do with letting her know that I can finally see what she was going through in hindsight, now that the anger and hurt have subsided in me. I was under stress and grieving at the time this happened, then as my wife left she saw nothing but hurt and anger from me. I haven't had a clear head and heart in a while to see that.
She did try to express her feelings from that time recently, but in my brooding state I saw it as little more than justification for her actions.
I just want peace for both of us. Regardless of whether reconciliation is in our future.
I think this is among the healthiest and perhaps bravest things I've read here in awhile.
Good for you. Like you said, regardless of outcome, you want some peace for both of you.
Thank you! I appreciate that a lot.
The few that I have told about this have been very hostile about me doing this. Telling me that I shouldn't have to apologise for her bad boundaries etc
While I shouldn't have to, the alternative is what? Keep resenting her for the hurt and playing the victim?
Unfortunately, she is stubborn in her nature. She knows that she's done the wrong thing and finds it impossible to turn around. "I know that you think this is easy to come back from, but it's not".
Not heard anything from the note as yet, but I appreciate it's difficult.
Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014
Rain mac on and prepare for the s**tstorm... At the start, I saved the converstaions between my wife and her boss onto my phone. For proof in the future if things turned nasty between us. Unfortunately, while reinstaling the FB app on my phone, Synch All was selected. These notes were now shared amongst my friends list. For a few hours. I have no idea who saw these.
I sent my wife a message to inform her that mutual friends and some of her family may know now that her "We just grew apart" story is not the whole truth.
I have yet to receive a reply. I have a feeling that the whole secret and fantasy developed around it is now blown open.
Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014
That's correct. I normally avoid synching anything, but it was the only way to proceed. They were up for a few hours. All their conversations from our minor misunderstandings to his full blown manipulation of them. I have no idea who has seen anything. But at least it puts an end to her lying about all this to anyone I suppose.
Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Yeah you don't really see them nowadays. Mind you she had no idea that I forwarded all those conversations to myself for evidence. She does now. Which means lying is no longer an option.
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Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014
