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Absolutely agree with this, Twin. ^^^


Mamabear.


Starsky

The good thing about DB is that we all dig deep and try to fix our stuff.

Some people never get around to fixing their stuff...

Actually, I agree with this. ^^^ Just couldn't find an emoticon (from our very limited selection . . . c'mon, admins!!) that said "Mamabear."

A good mamabear will do her best to keep her cubs from ever encountering danger to begin with, and will only rise up and attack when provoked.


Starsky (who's much more comfortable with the "wolf/sheep/chickens" analogies)

I too, was my 2nd husbands affair partner. He told me he was divorced. I had no reason to NOT believe him.

The biggest lesson I learned from that whole marriage was that when people in my life behave badly, it is a reflection on them.

You didn't make your husband a liar anymore than I did


Work on things you need to work on to make yourself a better person

let him go

He won't be a better person...he has to account for that in his own life

he won't come to his senses and nothing you can do will make him

coal needs pressure to make itself into a diamond...
you will see how you shine because of this

anger is emotion wasted on him

H won't give me his employee number so I can do the required health testing and still won't give me his pay check stub. So I called his boss (who he lied to and said we were separated, didn't say he walked out due to having an affair) and I asked for this information. I also told him why H wouldn't give it/why I didn't have access, I.e. filled him in on the affair and who it was with (another employee under him)

He gave me the info I needed. So one less thing for me to stress about!

Now dealing with the same random bull s&$@ calls about coupons/who knows what every few days.

Twin Mom,

Gosh, I'm sorry you are I this situation. I do hope you can relax some and focus on your pregnancy.

You've received some great advice here. With your h's history, he may never look at his issues and address them. He may think hopping from R to R is normal and makes him happy.

Focus on you and your kids. You have 3 great gifts from your time with your h. Please take care of yourself.

Just needing some support.....

Last night I got very sick, vomiting and contractions. I sent H a text asking him to pick up the kids first thing instead of after church. Well I thought about it and realized he wouldn't see the text til he actually woke up so I called. It was 1:45am but I didn't care. Told him I was super sick and needed him to get the kids first thing. He said ok, I hung up and then immediately get a text asking if there is anything he can do for me right now. I responded no.

He texts at 6:45 asking if the twins are up, I said no and he asks if I need anything. I told him some crackers. He brings me crackers and waits for the twins to get up. Once they do he fed them breakfast, changed them and took them to OW house.....

I have since gotten 2 texts asking how I feel.

It makes it harder to want him out of my life when he is being nice.

Oh and I just got out of bed and saw he did a load of diapers (cloth diaper) took out the trash, and picked up my cereal bowl and cup I had left on the dining room table.

Hi Twin Mom,

It's nice that your h is helping out a bit. Keep focusing on relaxing during the remainder of your pregnancy and your kids.