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Forget the last paragraph...it was for another post lol sorry

Well, she responded. Cold as usual but she still will not acknowledge anything I say about time with our kids:

Latest email from W. She would appreciate an early response:
(this line was added by my MIL)


I would appreciate it if you could please take the time to provide your answer with regard to the sale of the house. This is part of planning for the kids so it is a priority.

Being that the trailer needs some work with respect to the flooring maybe sell 'as-is' and right away. I would also like to know where you are at with the Business shares.

I would like to have a payout statement for the Car with an effective date of 28 March 2014 please.

Have you had a chance to check the date on D2's car seat that you have?

thanks.

How should I respond?

I would respond by seeing a lawyer ASAP and finding out how you can go about seeing your kids more often, and in the meantime, I would agree with your W about NOTHING regarding the terms of the separation/divorce.

My response would be limited to the car seat question only.

Can you see now that trying to be nice and give her one more chance is not getting you anywhere?

Please get a lawyer and take immediate action (whatever that may be) to spend more time with your kids, and stop considering what your W will think or whether you can still R.

I am not sure I'd answer at all....you guys are going back and forth without any progress. And based on prior discussions, isn't this in your attorney's court now? Let her get the ball rolling on the parenting plan.

I do think it's important that you know the answers to her questions though. You do need to start thinking about what the plan for YOU is. And don't say "I'll do whatever I have to for 50/50"....that's really not an answer. Nor is "the best plan is to reconcile"....put it out of your mind.

If you get a shared custody agreement, are you keeping or selling the house? If you get every other weekend, are you keeping or selling the house? Same question for each of these items. My guess is the answer is the same in most cases...

If and when I get 50/50 then I would for sure sell the house. If that for some reason didn't happen and I ended up with every other weekend then I may keep the house. If it's any more than every other weekend then I would likely sell the house as well.

I've had a plan in place to share time with the kids equally going back to November. I had arranged things with my work so that I can work from home full time etc. I had already been researching home prices in the area where the kids are etc. I have most everything ready to go.

I didn't hear back from my L yesterday but I'm trying again today.

Try harder.

I'll talk to the L today one way or the other.

The only other response I'm considering, besides the car seat expiry, is to say

"I will discuss the financial matters when we have a parenting agreement in place that shares time with the kids equally."

Perfect.

Shocker there ^^^^

It is time Scorp..

No more trying

No more excuses

No more emails ( well, maybe one more )

No more burying your head and pretending that this will end well.


My SIMPLE response would be...

I will not discuss anything further, until the a custody agreement is in place.



Like Drew has said 100? times ???

BULLET YOUR POINTS SO THAT YOU LEAVE NO QUESTION ABOUT THE ANSWERS YOU SEEK ....



Even in her response, she is trying to take you down...

Your inaction is affecting the children ( BS there)

Your trailer is unsafe because of the flooring ( is it ? )



BTW ?

If this Lawyer is jerking your chain now, expect that kind of service down the road....

Find one that will answer you on YOUR time, not theirs....

I mean, you are the one paying them.....right ???