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Hey LFW

Indeed a huge backslide.

I feel like I'm in an impossible situation. In the past she would say that I would never do anything for her. I'm time everything I did was with her in mind, but it made her even more unhappy! I realise that to have a healthy relationship I have to make myself happy and healthy - it's just very difficult breaking from the mindset developed over years and learnt from my mum in my parents relationship.

I am working on it. Work is going well, I am a bit of a big deal! It feels great to be respected and part of the infrastructure. I made a new friend today through work and I hope to build on that and meet other people through him.
I am joining a new gym at work and will take classes.
I am looking into finding my IC - it's time to start working on myself (any tips on how to choose an IC? Anyone?)
I have lost over 25kg of fat and I am taking pride in my appearance. W, although liking the changes (she ha told me that I look good and I have caught her looking at me several times), keeps making negative comments about spending money (needed new jeans as they are all now far too big) and taking time away from family and kids.

I am starting driving again and just applied for my provisional license.

Sounds like your W doesn't like you changing for the better & wants you to stay as you are and be miserable whilst she does as she pleases... You have every right to GAL and look after yourself, your kids will be happier with a happy Dad!

Good on you for moving yourself forwards - try not to dwell on the backslide, it's done now so just focus on avoiding the same mistake in the future.

Sorry your in this situation, it's very frustrating & painful but good times will come again no matter what happens.

Thanks Broken1, I think you're spot on!