I appreciate all the advice. I'm focusing more on me and my daughter now. I need to take care of me and worry less about what I've no control over. W told me her relationship with OM will probably end soon, but she think there's something better than us out there. She says things just to get me upset and to leave her alone so she can F around some more. Only God knows the outcome of all this, but today I know I'm more important and deserve to be happy. I'll enjoy myself and take care of my daughter. I'm planning to take her to Disney world next month. This whole thing started in early December, so 3month into her mess. She think she's in control of me and OM and will stop whenever she choses. Time wait for no one. So my life should go on with or without her. Sorry about your situation. I'm praying for everyone going through this headache and disappointment.
I appreciate all the advice. I'm focusing more on me and my daughter now. I need to take care of me and worry less about what I've no control over. W told me her relationship with OM will probably end soon, but she think there's something better than us out there. She says things just to get me upset and to leave her alone so she can F around some more. Only God knows the outcome of all this, but today I know I'm more important and deserve to be happy. I'll enjoy myself and take care of my daughter. I'm planning to take her to Disney world next month. This whole thing started in early December, so 3month into her mess. She think she's in control of me and OM and will stop whenever she choses. Time wait for no one. So my life should go on with or without her. Sorry about your situation. I'm praying for everyone going through this headache and disappointment.
I appreciate the advice man. I feel you pain man. I honestly don't know why you give so much and most female nowadays still step out and hurt the supposed to be most important person in there lives. So you guys still live together? How's that going for you? I know that must be very difficult.
There are ups and downs.. I know we all are in different places here and stages of dealing and learning in our situations. I take comfort here. I, we, are not alone here. Times where I think people don't understand what this is like, I know here, they do. My thing is, we are not alone in this. For me, there a times, where it feels like I have to shoulder it all, but I don't.
Me:36 Her:35 together 11yrs M 7 1/2yrs lived together 10yrs 2dogs 2cats Mortgage on a house
bomb dropped 01/12/14 Separate bedrooms/W stays here some nights I want to stay married
Thanks man. I'm not giving up but loosing up gradually. Very difficult for me to deal with the affair. Knowing my wife is F another man multiple times a week is hard to swallow. Three month and affair still continue with OM.
3 months is not long, unless you are in great pain, and I know you are. But try to get the big picture here.
And may I recommend a movie for you to watch? I hesitate b/c I don't want you to get the "wrong" message from it, b/c it could mean false hope.
But then, it also has other messages AND shows divorce from a kids' perspective (not so clean and tidy).
Anyhow, it's VERY well written, like clearly someone who has DB'd wrote the script.
IT's called "Stuck in Love" with Greg Kinnear, Jennifer Connolly, and a great cast. Also shows things from the kids view point.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Bora bora lol! I'm doing better brother. I'm Working hard to take care of me and my daughter. My primary focus now is my daughter and me. She's in a full relationship affair and nothing can stop her for now. I've accepted that and moving forward with my life. My peace of mind and sanity is more important.
Wow. Great movie indeed. I saw the movie early this morning. I guess there's always hope if you ready to put the work. I'm in pain but doing everything in my power not to allow her relationship affair affect me. My primary focus now is my daughter and my carrier. She only call if she need something. I'm too smart for her games now. I only do things that benefit my daughter and not her and OM. She makes enough money now to take care of her self and her young lover. Thanks for sharing the movie.
Just finished reading your story man. Wow! Jaw dropping brother. I'm so sorry that you're going through all this. Having a affair is one thing but carrying OM baby is taking it to another level. Do you think her family knows about the pregnancy? What about OM?
There are many situations on here who have had affairs in them and were reconciled. The outcome is basically up to you and if you're willing to put the time and effort into it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I'm doing just that mrbond. Not easy but my main focus now is my daughter and I. She's young and don't deserve to be part of this mess. I last spoke to w on Tuesday and we made arrangement for her to call me 7pm everyday so I can speak to my daughter. That only lasted for one day before her throwing OM name in my face again. I don't have time for her nonsense anymore. "I don't see any longevity with this guy but I think there's something better than all this out there for me" I told her good luck and hang up the phone. I now know my worth and will not take anymore insult from her or anyone again. We can have the discussion regarding our marriage when she come back to her senses, and if not, life goes on.
