Dr Annie,
ours was definately similar. My H could not afford to live on his own and still support us all. I could actually do just fine contrary to my own disbelief. And as his A finished horribly I just said lets fix up this mess because of the kids and see it into the new year and then go our separate ways but of course one thing slowly led to others.
The key had always been my mindset. I'm never fazed by whether he is coming or going, just adapted the 'you snooze, you lose' attitude. If H doesn't want this awesome life of mine and our kids then that's his own bad luck. its doesn't mean I'm not human and can't cry when my feelings are hurt but it does mean that he has to work for it if he wants it. and he definately is. I definately don't feel like the consilation prize or the plan b I feel like he chose to end A because he seen what he was giving up. hope this helps!


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