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Ask him to make an appointment with five well-respected individual therapists or family counselors. Not even MARRIAGE counselors, just individual or family counselors.

And ask them if it's okay what he's doing.

Also, I am sorry to say this but this R is most likely a PA. They were in a hotel room together so there is a small chance it stopped before intercourse, but it is small. Couple that with the fact that he had himself tested for herpes would indicate they have had sex.

Helloooo